Hello everyone im pretty new here and never thought i would find myself on a divorce subreddit but here we are.

Im a (31m) my wife(30f) we have 3 children together 11 , 8 and 3.

Backstory we have always had our ups down throughout our 13 years together. Some very low points of verbal abuse,pushing,shoving, throwing shit at each other but on the other hand we can be great together and very close.

She blindsided me a few weeks back with wanting a seperation, but police and social child services where called from one of her circle of friends. I was acused of domestic abuse and child abuse. Which i would like to add i have never ever put a finger on my children, the most iv done is raise my voice too high at times.

Going back we where working on our marriage due to her having an affair 2.5 years ago which totaly devastated me and the family. Things did improve over the 2.5years but there was always setbacks with trust and intimacy issues But it wasnothing i didnt think we couldnt work on, i work and provide for my family and iv never put them in a financial crisis.

I had to move out within the week and police where on stand by incase i decided not to leave. I told my wife , if you realy think im an abuser and a danger to our children id like you to press charges on me so i am able to fight my side of story. She declined and told them she will not press charges.

It is now fathers day and iv just dropped the children back to there mum, the whole time i had she was texting me and updating me where and what she was doing. I didnt respond.

Now my problem/question is:

I still love my wife and never wanted any of this to go the way it did. I feel like all the blame has been put on me and im the loser here but i also feel moving out and removing any involvment in the house,rent bills etc was the right thing for me too do due to no longer being wanted there.

She still wants to talk to me like nothing has happend and text me on the fly. But i am going silent and only interacting with my children .not her.

Am i being fair or is this normal?