Hello Men,

I’m reaching out because I’m in a really difficult place and could use some honest advice. I’m a new father to a 4-month-old, and while I love my child deeply, I’m struggling. I regret the situation I’m in with my wife. She’s always been controlling, but it’s gotten worse since the baby arrived. It feels like nothing I do is ever good enough—I get blamed for anything that goes wrong, no matter what.

The breaking point came when I was told I shouldn’t soothe my baby by walking him because it will “build a bad habit,” and that if I take more than 20 minutes to get him to sleep, I’m a failure as a dad. That moment really hit me hard.

It’s been a few weeks, and after a lot of thinking, I believe the healthiest path forward for me—and eventually for my child—is divorce. I don’t make this decision lightly, but I know something needs to change for my mental and emotional well-being.

I have no support system right now and feel completely alone in this. I’ve started going to the gym to clear my mind and manage the stress, but I’m scared—can she use that against me in court, claiming it’s child neglect?

If anyone has advice on what steps I should take, what to prepare for, or even how to emotionally handle this, I’d be truly grateful.

Thanks for listening.