Acknowledging The Pain - How?

Webofshadows1 · 2021-05-30T15:25:20+00:00

I wish you the best of luck in your time of need. I am guessing this is fairly new. She will continue to say terrible things and do much worse. Acknowledging the pain means knowing she is no longer your friend or partner. She is your enemy and it is her job to tear you down. Become numb to the soon-to-be threats, and harassment, and try to focus on the kids and your own personal growth.

dday_throwaway3 · 2021-05-30T15:43:20+00:00

Someone telling you to acknowledging the pain is reinforcing that it's all your fault. It's not. It's called gaslighting, and it's what women do to men because women are unable to take responsibility or acknowledge accountability for their actions. It's part of their biological makeup. Take some time and learn about female behavior and intersexual dynamics. Start by looking up "solipsism".

oli_21_ · 2021-05-30T17:22:45+00:00

It's called projection. She's shining onto you what is coming from her.

Bro you're going to need to get mentally tough in this battle.

How do you deal with this you ask? It's a lot of soul searching. I use my phone note pad and write things as they come to me. For instance my ex used to tell me that I sat on my ass and never did anything. I wrote out over 150 things from day to day that I did around the house daily weekly monthly etc.

When I saw she was a liar it helped me know that I wasn't what she said.

That progressed into goal setting and changing some things I didn't like about myself. At the same time embracing my strengths. Slowly but surely I began to like the guy looking back at me in the mirror.

This process is slow but sure. Take your time. Eventually you'll get there.

Keep posting here and seeking help

Title	Acknowledging The Pain - How?
Author	Mnguy2021
Upvotes	7
Comments	18
Date	May 30, 2021 3:09 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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