Stbxw moved out to live with bf (long story no slut shaming). I have kids every day from 8pm-8/9am (depending on school or not). She comes over all school afternoons to watch kids, and then has half the week 5pm-8pm, and 9am-8pm Saturday.

One of kids is special needs, and often wakes up at night and also is fairly demanding about food.

Last night, she is over, and asks if there are any groceries I might need, as she will take kids to outing to target (because of special needs kiddo, even something like that can be a lot, especially for her as she isn't strong enough to deal with kiddo having melt down in public). I give her very specific list of what I need.

She goes out and comes back with additional toys, and things I didn't ask for, and gets a pizza she cooks for them (there were good left overs I told her earlier that day about that she agreed to use), got multiple packs of things that back when we lived together she would tear into me for getting multiple packs of as kids would demand only that until it was gone, and some other stuff.

I pointed out all the things she did which I didn't want, and how she used to get really mad at me about doing the same. And reminded that I have to deal some times with kiddo getting up at 4am until school at 830 wanting these treats, and it's not okay to put that on me

She ended leaving in tears, saying she was "trying so hard not to mess this up" and complaining she was just trying to do something with kids on her limited time that wasn't sitting watching a movie. I pointed out it was a nice day, why not go for walk to park, or drive to a playground, or read a book, or play games, etc.

July 20th is sock day. I cannot wait.