I live in family home full time, stbxw just starting to live at her new bf (it's complicated, don't need cheating bitch comments) half time, she was on duty until 7am this morning and required to be out of house by 8am.

I got up at 5am, did my work out, had alone time, make kids pancakes and bacon and sat with them at table as she left.

She had to clean everything last night (our agreement is each of us cleans everything on each switch off) which was a first.

House is quiet, kids know dad means no screen time when he says it, they are all happily playing/reading.

There is no house work to do, all the divorce paperwork is in and waiting finalization. No more worrying about future or drafting papers.

This failed relationship energy is out of the house. Just me and the kids.

I've got hobbies I'll get back into, shit ton of books to read, but I just enjoyed the quiet and let my brain adjust to there not being some impending emergency or possibly argument that could go off.

Sundays are all mine, and my parents agreed to watch my special needs kiddo while I take other two to mass and then lunch, then we all hang out at my parents for awhile.

Now lazy Sunday afternoon, still no screens. Kids know exactly what meal plan is for next three days, no one else to disagree, or to give into kids asking for something less healthy.

Can insist my 6 y/o try new foods without getting mixed messages from spouse five minutes later, can talk more directly about faith. Can do bible time and prayers before bed.

I've already been training myself to go to bed right after kids do at 9pm, set an alarm for midnight to take special needs kiddo to pee, then back to sleep and get up at 4am-5am for exercise in garage gym with baby monitor in case kiddos need anything. Then quiet prayer/reading time until kids get up.

I do every morning from 7am-bus, so kids will have one morning routine, including a hot meal 6 days a week (stbx has Saturday mornings) and then stbx even when living with bf has to come back to get kids off bus and be with them until I'm done with work at 5pm.

This is my week coming up with four nights off on in a row (Wednesday to Saturday --although "off"parent takes kids to any evening activities) so after only having to see stbx for 5-15 minutes on Monday and Tuesday, I then get a ton of time to do whatever the fuck I want second half of the week.

Why did I ever even care about staying in this marriage which we both agreed had been over three years ago? What do I care she started dating when it was unclear whether we were waiting two more years or not?

She now has to do half the house work, half the actual child care, has to get a job. All so she can go be with some new loser half the time in his 600 ft house and I don't have to interact with her except about kids and can raise them how I want when she is not here? And all I owe her is $1300 a month for two years or until she gets remarried?