Being Spiteful

anonymous10471 · 2020-12-28T04:35:00+00:00

Dude, I promise you and speaking from experience, don’t make it any harder than it has to be.

flapjackdavis · 2020-12-28T04:49:08+00:00

Unfortunately the wounds that she suffers will be felt by the kids also. And their cuts will be deeper and far longer lasting.

sicrm · 2020-12-28T04:31:45+00:00

if you can get a somewhat amicable split, that's usually preferred.

if you go nasty and she follows suit, you both can end up racking up a lot in lawyer fees.

2020-12-28T05:05:52+00:00

Being vindictive is a Sure fire way to mess up your kids, and their kids. Generational trauma is real. You want your kid to kill themselves because their parent divorced, their dad hero betrayed them, by purposely hurting their mother, and they couldn’t handle it. It happens.

You want your kids to pull a gun on his girlfriend at school because because he’s butt hurt she dumped him? What are,you teaching your kids?

Look at your own childhood. Any hurts you could have done without? Everyone hurts in divorce. No one escapes skipping down the road clicking their heels. Get some,counseling to,handle your vindictiveness and make a plan to,keep your kids safe and sheltered as much as possible. Be honest with,your kids and wife and get a therapist or a friend to help you mentally.

pdawg37 · 2020-12-28T13:44:11+00:00

Love your kids more than you hate your ex.

PietroMantoli · 2020-12-28T07:16:03+00:00

I had the same feelings and still do 2 years after my divorce. But every time I tried to make my ex suffer not only did she not suffer as much as I wanted her to but it always backfired and made me look like an ass to my kids. Try to keep a level head. It’s hard it sucks but you just have to struggle through it and be the better person. Sorry bro.

Ok-Cat1446 · 2020-12-28T08:44:08+00:00

It is natural for there to be a lot of anger and acrimony in a time like this but it is stressful enough without having willfully want it to be rough esp. w kids involved. It is gonna be rough but time to cut the losses and move on trust me, not time to be spiteful although you are entitled to be angry, watch where you direct it. That sht can come back to bite you.

semaj7979 · 2020-12-28T12:38:58+00:00

Thanks for the level headed responses!

Title	Being Spiteful
Author	semaj7979
Upvotes	3
Comments	9
Date	December 28, 2020 4:22 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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