Tip for the day. Feel free to tell your mutual friends as much as you want. I finally told a friend of mine this morning, his wife is as much friends with my ex as I am with him... but I'll be damned if she gets to tell her side of the story first. Keep it simple, tell the truth... especially if the truth makes you look good. Now he gets to go home and relay the info to his wife and by the time my wife gets around to telling her some fabrication of the real story, she's already formed an opinion. Still undecided on what to do about her parents... should I let her lie first?