Married for 10 years. Wife cheats on me. continues to do so even after I found out. I basically moved out of my home becuase I couldn't handle the mental breakdown I was going through knowing that my wife is out cheating on me every night. I finally moved out and got my own place a short time later.

Upon moving, I tried to get my ex to come up with an equally split plan for both of us to work and care for our kids. she is a manager for a nation wide restaurant on salary. im an hourly sous chef at a senior living facility. She never helped me come up with the plan after many many weeks. I had to come up with something on my own. I bent over backwards.

I work 5am to 1pm tuesday through Saturday, pick up the kids every day from school and keep them at her house until she gets off either at 6, 9, or past midnight in some cases I also have the keep them every Sunday and Monday.

She works and takes them to school 4 days a week. That's all.

Yes, I mentioned that I watch them at her house after I pick them up from school. Here's the reason for that:

I have no family here in NC to help me with the kids. my son is severely autistic, nonverbal etc which makes daycare almost impossible and very expensive. I cannot afford daycare. My kids school is about 5 minutes from my exes house and about 50 from my new place. if they stay at my house every night, the kids have to wake up at 3am every day to go get dropped off at their mom's so I can be to work by 5am. I cant switch their school to a locations closer to home becuase I cannot get them to school on time and be at work on time seeing that I work at 5 and their school opens at 7. So my ex takes them to school, I pick them up and do all the parent's duties every evening until we go back to my house Saturday evening for my two days off.

She is supposed to tell me her work schedule every week so I can plan and pack clothes for however many days I have to stay at her house and give me a day off from the kids at least once a week which never happens.

I cannot work more, get a second job, or get promoted at work, make friends or plans to have a night with friends, basically have any life of my own because I am so bound to be there for my kids. cant stay at my own home, was forced out of the house I was in and am all around being fucked over in all this. I have begged for her to adjust her schedule or get a different job so we can make thia more fair and im just told no or don't get a response at all.

ive had countless consultations with attorneys who all say we're technically still married considering where the kids stay and that Im under the same roof as my ex at least 4 nighta a week. which I understand. All attorneys have also failed to tell me what I need to do next to get the situation more in my favor.

Anyone?