Wife(32F) and I(30M) are splitting, just physically separated this week. We have two kids, ages 3 and 5. I want 50/50 custody. My wife doesn’t agree to two of my proposals.

We both work in healthcare, so we each work 3 days per week.

My wife works nights 7p-7a, on Friday night, Saturday night, and Sunday night. Every single week.

My best attempt to get every single Monday off, per my wife’s demand, isn’t entirely feasible at the moment. So my schedule alternates every other week.

On Week 1, I work from 4a-4p on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. On Week 2, I work Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday. And that repeats.

My preferred proposal is that for Week 1, I have the children all day Friday, Saturday, and Sunday and on Week 2 I have them that Monday, then Friday, Saturday, Sunday. Three days one week, four days the next.

My next proposal is that Week 1, I work a 1/2 day Monday and get the kids for 1/2 of Monday, and then every Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. Totaling 3.5 days per week, every week. This is less ideal due to the flip-flopping of the kids on Monday. Which is why I prefer the other method. It just makes more sense to me.

She is not in agreeance with either proposal because I am unable to get every single Monday off. At the current moment, she is only allowing me to have them for 1/2 of Friday (so that she can nap to switch her sleep schedule for night shift) Saturday, and Sunday which leaves me with 2.5 days per week with my children.

THE ONLY request that I have made throughout this process of separation was that I have 50/50 custody of the kids. I didn’t ask for the nice SUV, I didn’t ask for the nice TV setup or any furniture that we have (had?), I went out and bought all new furniture for my children and my new place, I bought all new clothes for them as well. Hell, I willingly lived in the basement for an entire year before we actually separated. SHE asked ME for the divorce.

My fair share of my children is literally ALL that I’ve asked for.

Am I delusional? Am I being an asshole? Am I wrong?