I split from my wife last year, her idea. At the time I was shocked, but not totally surprised as for the last couple of years we felt more like room mates with kids than partners. I moved out.

Its been amicable and we have agreed finances and I see the kids whenever I want (they live with her full time (teenagers, want their own messy rooms ) and we remain friendly with each other.

However I found out recently that my wife has started seeing someone else. My world fell apart. I didn't deal with the divorce, I pretended that it was temporary and not really happening and deep down I hoped that we would get back together. Hearing this brought all that out to the surface and the realisation that this is really over.

I realised I am still in love with her. I felt intensely jealous. Both of the person who is seeing her as he gets to be with her and I cant, but also jealous that she is out there with someone else, while Im alone at home, on my own and miserable.

I also feel sad that she has moved on so quickly. Its been a year but we were together for nearly 20. I guess as she instigated the divorce she was probably already over me before we even split

I dont know how to get over her, the divorce, or how to move on. Im really not interested in dating. Ive never done on line dating and I dont think seeing someone else as a way to get over my ex is a healthy idea. Plus I have 0 self confidence at the min and dont think that is going to help. I also dont see how anyone else is going to measure up to her.

What do I do?