So I am making this post to the people who have already been divorced or the ones who are in the edge of divorce.

The divorce process is one hell of a run and it’s both painful and just agonizing. The best advice I can give is to please be truthful and honest to yourself as to what you want. Self respect and honour goes along way ! You owe this to yourself as you got yourself into this situation and not anyone else including your significant other .

Get a lawyer! Sometimes you have to go through a million people to get to one who doesn’t see you as a cash cow 🐄 . Many lawyers see you as a product and the more they can rinse and repeat the more they can make -its a rabbit hole 🕳 that most of you don’t understand,so this is one critical peace of your chessboard if you have to play at all .

Try and work out things out of court if you can. If I have 100 grand In the bank I can give it all up and make her go away . Yes I’ll be at zero but I’d have saves a lot of headache and lots of drama - put it in writing get it notarized and you’ll have a positive nice relationship with your ex and kids if you have some ,after all it’s a game and you just got beat at it.

Don’t let hate,jealousy and disrespect get to you because It’s the one kryptonite that brings down a lot of people. Try to look at the future as a bright future and not defined by your current circumstances,always deal with the above as a personal weakness and try to see circumstance as products of the choices you made .

Never get into the situation again -get snipped if need be . Let the pain be a lesson take it and deal with it !let you brain understand that you are responsible for you and no one else is .

So at the game of poker you can have the nut full house on the flop and you call an all in by your opponent and when you get to the river you find out he lucked out and drew the straight flush on the turn - you loose all you money - the lesson is not that you dint play it correctly. It’s just a heavy draw that got there and it happened to bit you - it’s all a game folks and sometimes you can have the best situation but it all goes wrong .

Good luck 😉Life should and is good on this island 🌴.