I’m in the process of unraveling the financial mess that my STBX has put us in.

She paid off all of her credit cards with the joint account … had changed all contact info on my sole credit card to hers, I assumed it had $0… obviously not. It’s been carrying a 2K balance for years.

Also found out she never paid the excise tax on our joint property out of state… 5K in back taxes on that.

If my name only is on the joint property and the credit card (with proof she fraudulently charged the credit card)… how likely or any advice on getting that money back or her paying half in the divorce settlement?

She handled all of our finances. I know shame on me but I had no reason to suspect this level of deception and maliciousness.

Is there anything else I should look into to cover all my bases? Can’t help feeling like I will be uncovering more and more issues. My credit report did not show the taxes overdue or any other credit cards.

I do have a lawyer. Just looking for advice to avoid the 500$/hour fees that his advice comes with. I’ve been pushing for a settlement conference for almost a year now. She and her lawyer blatantly ignore my lawyer’s communications.