I'm curious. I'm about a year out from an infidelity induced divorce. I'm in a new relationship. I didn't wait, perhaps out of ego but I'm happy in the dating process right now. We're both very flawed, me and the gf but it's a learning curve to say the least.

My ex wife did it in an especially heinous way, cheating during my surgery recovery. My gf was in the hospital not too long ago. I don't have a single cell in me that could ever mess around in her moment of need like that, ever. I don't know where my ex wife found the pure evil to do that.

I don't feel the need to hurt her, but I want to rub my new better self right in her face. The physique, the happiness, the various shirts I've collected from vacations, the law school, the new car she wanted but I got instead. There's no emotion, just the need to avenge such an evil act. My contribution to the huge societal problem we face. Sure the more time I spend typing is time I could have been bettering myself but hobbies are important too. Cooking is therapeutic, and unlike her my cast iron gets better with age.

Just curious if anyone else did this and how it went.