I hope this may help some of you guys that are starting out on this shit show of a journey. Please check out my post history and you will see my backstory.

I started out full of desperation to try and save my marriage. I tried a 6 month temp separation where I fought to reconcile but I now know that this was always doomed to failure.

Once it was over I discovered she had cheated and found out that I had been married to a compulsive liar for years. Through this sub I found out what gaslighting was, and she was damn good at it!! This was the stage I was angry and wanted revenge, I wanted to ruin her for what she did to me.

It’s only in the last few months that I have got to the point where I honestly do not give a shit about her anymore. She has a boyfriend now and when I found out it hurt like hell, now I couldn’t care. She’s his problem as far as I’m concerned. It’s only my kids that I care about in all of this now. It feels good to be at this point now, at the start of the journey I could never have imagined I would get here.

I’ve now met someone else and while it is very early days I haven’t felt this good in years. It feels great to have an attractive woman who actually desires me and makes me feel wanted. For the record I was at the not giving a shit about my ex stage before this woman came into my life.

Last thing that may help some as it was something that worried me at first. I’ve had the snip and even though I dont want any more kids I thought this may hinder my chances of a future partner. It turns out that it’s a major attractive quality to lots of women out there so I shouldn’t have worried!

I hope this post will be of help to someone.