Need some help

AirSailer · 2024-11-26T18:25:34+00:00

After getting divorced it's now obvious to me how much I disliked being around my (now ex) wife. She made life intolerable. I also now see how so many men I know have had their spirit broken by their wives. Men walking mindlessly behind the woman at the grocery store; or staring off into nothing at a restaurant while their wife is on her phone. Those poor men are everywhere. It sounds like you are now one of them.

From my observations of couples, once the woman loses respect for her man then it's effectively over. Unfortunately there's very little you can do to gain back that respect. If possible, without her knowledge, I suggest you read "No More Mr Nice Guy". That might give you some perspective and help you advocate for yourself. However, be aware your wife knows that divorce isn't an appealing option for you as the male in such a large family.

Unusual_University14 · 2024-11-26T13:32:59+00:00

Divorce was filed in 2021, final in 2022 (custody and financial fight dragged on but resolved in 2024 but still in court).

The last 10 years of that not-marriage were made livable by my frequent travel. If it weren't for the kids, I'd have been on the road every week. I particularly liked round-the-world trips which had tickets that had to be at least 14 days of travel (i.e. you'd have to not be home for 2 weeks). People who know now how the marriage was asked how I lived with it, I told them the relationship wasn't too bad when there was an ocean between us.

Same was true with the kids, I was able to be a father when she was out of the house. Her expectation was that I was a silent mother's helper. I'm a much better father and husband (I remarried) now.

ChoncosDad · 2024-11-26T00:28:31+00:00

My wife isn't mean to me, she's quite nice. But she's always correcting me, we only do what she wants to do, and she is fine with allowing the kids to be disrespectful. If I correct them on their behavior, she disapproves. Everything we do is what she wants, when she wants.

Trip_2 · 2024-11-26T00:10:24+00:00

Almost the same, I don't travel. I'm happy when she's not home and stay in the bedroom alone when she's home.

Title	Need some help
Author	ChoncosDad
Upvotes	2
Comments	5
Date	November 26, 2024 12:05 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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