I’m 27 years old, my wife is 34. I’ve been married to a liberal woman for less than 2 years. No kids. We have bought an old house that needed renovations a bit more than half a year ago. I loved her at the beginning but I’m not sure if I still love her. We have problems that we can’t solve, although they are ridiculous problems. And because of these problems she’s emotionally detached from me since many months. Our sex life is dead. We had sex only 1 time in the last 6 months. She says she doesn’t want to have sex with me she feels distant to me, because I’m not able to fix our problems. She gives me the cold shoulder, replies to me with one-word answers. And the biggest problem is: she thinks I am a man child, I don’t care about the house and our needs, and that I’m lazy. It’s true I’m lazy, I work full time and when I come home from work all I want to do is chill. I am also not good at taking care of our needs. Something needs to get done for example, the other day I forget about it and don’t pursue it, and that thing stays as it is for weeks. Not because I don’t want it to get done, but because I don’t have concentration to keep everything in check. I suck at cleaning the house and helping with the chores. Also I suck at handy work. That’s the crucial part. I have no idea about construction and how to fix broken things in the house. And this is really destroying our marriage. The house still needs some renovation and I’m the one who’s expected to do them. My wife wants me to improve myself and be able to do all these things. I’m in the position of a useless doormat who can’t help with anything. This gives her much of the power of course. She’s also earning way more than me. We have a bank account where all of our income goes into, and I still don’t have a debit card to that account. Because we never had the time and opportunity to make an appointment with the bank and go there together to make them issue another card for me for the same account (we are from Germany). My wife gives me pocket money. We bought the house with mortgage. Her income pays all the bills, the mortgage etc. and my income pays for our food and purchases. I feel useless, incapable, worthless, a half-man. It seems like I don’t know how to be a husband and marriage isn’t the right thing for me. I want to be the leader of the house, control our finances, decide what needs to be done but I think this will never be the case because my wife has feministic views and is a very dominant type. She is stubborn and unamenable. She’s emotionally almost never available. She never pays and shows me even half the attention and affection I pay and show her. I feel like emotionally abused. I actually love her, probably deep inside but all these things have put me off of her. I’m very confused and I don’t know what I should do. Sorry for the long text, I just let my heart out. Please advise me.