Runaway

cschoonmaker · 2021-04-28T01:08:15+00:00

Ages of the 3 kids? You might be in for a longer road than I was. My 2 kids were 12 and 8 when we split. Her parents paid for a lawyer after we agreed to do things sans lawyers and I got taken to the cleaners for $1200 month in spousal and child support combined. I couldn't even afford a place to live with what they took. Ended up renting a 4 bedroom house with my mom for 4 years to get by. I hated it. I love my mom but there is a reason I left home at 17. But I had to do it for my kids. I was their primary care giver most of their lives and I knew what they were dealing with while at my Ex's house. When the eldest turned 18 she moved in with me full time and I got her support dropped. When my Ex kicked our son out of her house...twice I took her to court and took primary physical custody from her. Child support #2 dropped and both kids living with me full time in a 3 bedroom house I rent on my own. Things get tight from time to time but the kids understand and don't complain because we're on our own, we're together and things are good. I felt like you do soooo many times I can't even count. I was always being reassured by friends and family that I was doing a good job and that my kids needed me even if they couldn't communicate that to me. Whatever you ultimately decide to do, do not abandon your kids. They need you whether you know it or not. I know it's hard and things look bleak at times. But you have to be a responsible adult/parent. Your kids deserve that from you, and you deserve it from yourself. You don't specify any particulars of what's going on so it's hard to tailor a response other than this for me. Keep your head up Dude.

macscheid · 2021-04-28T03:19:52+00:00

I pay a little over 3500 per month combined which approximates half my take home, and am on the hook for 3 years when it drops to about 2800 for another 2 years. Its all relative, but now I know marriage is tool meant for only women.

Title	Runaway
Author	UncleDora
Upvotes	11
Comments	7
Date	April 28, 2021 12:50 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/n032zm/runaway/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/Divorce_Men/runaway.817164 https://theredarchive.com/post/817164

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