I (46M) and my wife (41F) are in the process of getting a divorce. We have 2 children (8M, 5F) and currently live in Hungary (her country) after we moved from the UK 3 years ago. I found out she was having an affair last year and said quite clearly that I would move back to the UK if we get a divorce.

I know this is a controversial idea but I don't speak the language, don't have friends here and have no support and I definitely won't be able to count on her no matter what she says. She's proven that she is deceitful as she lied about the affair for almost 3 months.

I'm now planning my move back to the UK. We have 2 houses one that's paid off in Hungary and one in the UK which still has a mortgage. I suspect she will push to sell the house in the UK so she can take the equity out and live her best life, while I have to rent and pay for flights between the UK and Hungary. I suspect this is a tactic she will use to try and keep me here, another example of her manipulation which I've only now become aware of.

Not sure what I'm looking for just needed to write it all down