We are close on the financial negotiations, custody etc. But my stay at home STBXW of 19 years is in a fantasy land. She believes she will have no sacrifices and zero change in standard of living, as if I am supposed to somehow make more money to cover the two completely separate lives and she just coasts.

Now, after realizing her new job is barely a career, she is planning all kinds of expensive kids activities to give herself an excuse to drive all over town to play super mom - since apparently no one can pay her more than me as an employer.

I cannot wait until finances are separate and she has to have some actual accountability. When does the bubble burst? I’m working my ass off and travelling and getting all these text hints at how busy she is on the home front.

When we go 50:50 we both will need to work and handle the kids, and she wants to claim the kids full up all her time.