Temporary Custody Hearing Tomorrow

Vokenhagen21 · 2026-07-06T16:00:40+00:00

Every case is going to be different based on the particulars of your situation. And a lot depends on what both sides are trying to present. I was painted as an alcoholic who had to be at work everyday at 530 am while also abusing her, my ex presented themself as the primary caregiver. My ex also had filed motions to evict our roomate, for a GAL, therapy for the kids, exclusive use of the home, spousal support, and full custody of the kids. So my temp custody hearing included all pending motions, and was set for 2 hours.

There was testimony back and forth with essentially both atty's buttering up their clients, and trying to make the opposing party look worse. My ex's attorney tried to enter so much evidence during the hearing that we essentially ran out of time debating the motions. The judge essentially hand waved everything away and gave me thurs-mon the first three weekends of the month (and i mean he was literally walking out the door so we are now fighting over 5th weekends). We have gone to the final hearing, and i now have a GAL and custody evaluator i have to pay for, and the schedule has remained. The anticipation was horrible, the hearing was horrible. The way to stay calm is to know the opposing attorney is going to try and paint you in the worst possible light. Don't give them the satisfaction of reacting. Remember, you are fighting for your kids.

I am still fighting because the judge literally said "this schedule won't continue. It is not fair for one parent to have only weekends." Yet my ex continually says its working for the kids, even though she didn't want it. Although the temp hearing can set the status quo, if you can keep fighting. You can always make more money, you can't make up lost time.

RevolutionaryLaw8854 · 2026-07-06T15:46:58+00:00

Be strong.

The judge will strongly advise reaching a settlement. Fine, I’ll settle for 50/50 custody and being the residential parent.

All parenting decisions require 2 yes votes to happen or the other is not required to pay. All extra curricular expenses are 50/50. Right of first refusal is a parent needs to be away.

You get the picture

upvotersfortruth · 2026-07-06T13:35:01+00:00

They’re going to come at you with some offer that appears nice. These rarely go to full hearing. Regardless of what pressure is put upon you by the other side, the judge and even your own lawyer - take time to carefully consider and review it. Force your lawyer to earn his or her keep on this one, it is crucial and critical. Far from being “just a temporary hearing” what you get and give here will either compel her to prolong the case or compel her to settle. What’s temporary in terms that of custody and visitation (coparenting, whatever) often becomes permanent (I forget the name of the member here who often states the importance of the “status quo”). If divorce is a war, temporary hearings are a definitive battle. Be strong. Set the tone. If you have some actual bad facts, like abuse or drugs or alcohol or some real shit - of course you’ll need to reconsider. But if you’re like the rest of us, don’t cave or accept what feels wrong. Again, take your lawyer to task on every element of the offer and its implications for the case at large. No matter what they offer, push back and push back hard.

Title	Temporary Custody Hearing Tomorrow
Author	HoldtheLineDad
Upvotes	3
Comments	3
Date	July 6, 2026 11:46 AM UTC (3 weeks ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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