I love my wife, but she has a troubling relationship with money. I suspect it is trauma related to losing her mother in her teenage years. She consistently needs to make dramatic changes in her life and often this includes large amounts of money (which she doesn’t have). It’s either my money, her dad’s money, or loans or credit. She’s currently looking to go back to school (again)and taking out massive loans to do so. She’s 38. It’s sucked the life out of our marriage and now she wants a separation. I would love to work it out, but we are on the verge of bankruptcy with a 4 year old. I think her issues with change and money is possibly a mental illness but she will not admit it. I think divorce may be the only way to protect myself from more debt and risk but I’m also worried about her. I don’t know how the hell she’s gonna get by without my support when the loans run out. Anyway, any thoughts are appreciated.