I refused to sign the divorce papers and instead hired a lawyer. She began to yell and argue and had her mom help too. Insults. Slander. Everything. Finally, in a last ditch attempt to make me sign. She started to throw out claims of domestic abuse and tried to intimidate me further.

I recorded all of her and her mother’s tactics on how they were going to frame me as this big evil abuser. They touted it as fact because they knew I was recording.

I barely had time to shower as a SAHD. When tf do you think I had time to mentally and emotionally manipulate you? Especially when you left me and the baby alone for weeks while you went off on missions and small deployments? And how could you ever accuse me of being controlling. I never once looked at your phone or stalked you.

There was never a single police report about me. My neighbors are willing to testify (duplex) on my behalf that they never heard anything or saw anything of the sort and they saw us daily.

How can women just invent things out of thin air and think that will suddenly put everything in their favor? I’m not even asking for anything at all.

36 days a year (going to school). Alternating child tax benefit. I am waiving alimony and military support since I’m the SAHD with no income and she’s in the military… in fact I’ll be paying her. She kept me off the lease so she could hold the kid hostage after kicking me out. This was as soon as we moved from Italy to USA. Mere days.

Our first court appearance is in two weeks. I just filed on Friday. Should I hire a CD lawyer too? Or do you think the judge will just be like “yeah another day in divorce court” and move on. I have never been in trouble in my entire life. I’ve never hurt her or even threatened to.

I have a dozens of people who would back me up as I was in the military. My family and friends are behind me 100% saying that I am the best person they have ever met and that I always do the right thing. Hell i never even hit anyone in the military. Honorable discharge. Good conduct medal. Best dad ever. I don’t even think I got detention in school ever.

Anyway, I haven’t seen my kid in in awhile but I’ll get temporary orders to fix that. I call everyday and text asking for a video chat. She did do these at first but now she has ghosted me for 9 days. Makes me suspicious of what she’s doing.

I don’t see anything on the docket for anything but our divorce hearing so I don’t think she’s going through with her abuse claims. I don’t even think she has a lawyer for the divorce yet. I think she is just being mean and petty. she realized that she only has control over the kid and not much else. I’m in a different state so I’m no threat to anyone. 1,800 miles away.

Everything she said she would use against me would purely be my word vs. her word. How does this even work in court when there is no documentation, no reports, no witnesses… I could make up lies about her but I would never.

I just don’t get it. It boils my blood and invades my dreams. I can’t think. I am constantly worried. If she can lie and say anything… I could get screwed. All I care about is my daughter. She can take my meager assets and get the majority time. I don’t care. Just give me what I’m entitled to and let’s move on. This is pure psychological warfare. I wake up with dreams of being served criminal court petitions and getting emails from lawyers. It isn’t healthy. Please help me guys.

The only thing I could think that she has over me was a time where she cut herself on the head and went to work. Someone joked about it as a domestic violence and the military takes that seriously. An officer must have overheard because we were suddenly forced to go to a counselor who interview us. And no, I wasn’t even there when she cut herself lol. She did call me and me and my friend came over to help her stop the bleeding because he was a medic. Thank god for friends as witnesses in case she tried that.

With this counselor though, that lady probed deeper. She said to her, to multiple people, and on recording that I’ve never touched her. But she did say to the counselor that we argued and I was mean sometimes - which was a total lie because she would instigate and try to bully me. It seems like it was all one huge setup with years in the making. She recommended some type of marriage counseling and I said no, it was all bullshit and thankfully I didn’t do that because it would have probably been an even greater threat. I don’t think she even has documentation from this counselor since it was super informal and she doesn’t even know her name. It was purely military and “go to this building between this time”

Yeah it’s all bullshit. Let me know what you guys think I should do or when I should expect things if any. I would say if she doesn’t bring it up at the court hearing where we discuss our disagreements, then I should be safe I think. Otherwise it’s going to look extremely suspicious that she’s trying to smear me to get her way. What I am asking for is like extremely in her favor anyway so I don’t know why she feels the need to be petty.