29m, no kids, married for 7 years. We have had multiple fights that ended in near divorce. One we actually signed the papers but never filed. I went away for a couple of weeks recently to clear my head and I am on my way back home now. I stopped at a motel on the way and just decided to stay a couple more nights...

I think it might blind side her which is the last thing I want to do. I don't think it will be a complete shock but we haven't been fighting recently so it might come as surprise.

I just gave to remember I can't control her reaction only my own. My main issue and biggest fear is that I don't want to split up and then regret it a year down the line. Also I'm a pussy and don't want to hurt her. I still care for her and love her but my love has changed. We started out as friends for 3+ years and I think that's where I am now...