anyone else?

PrincessTiaraLove · 2021-10-19T03:09:03+00:00

I'm a woman and I've learned to dial it back on self help just because it can be a bit mundane and repetitive. That being said I do enjoy "Academy of Ideas" from time to time for philosophy, I like certain finance channels that help with budgeting and figuring out the economy, I like automotive channels just because that's my thing right now (niche down on your hobby, because it can make you relatable to women and men.) I like learning in general. Self help doesn't have to be self righteous. If you want to learn about fitness do it for your health and not for your ego. Also learn to trust yourself for advice, and build your own character meaning simply do the right thing even if its not popular or you're not getting praise for it. Trust me people will appreciate that.

SidArthur2000 · 2021-10-19T05:06:06+00:00

What are you looking for? General self-help literature for men, relationship advice, or mentorship?

SidArthur2000 · 2021-10-19T05:12:58+00:00

MMSL is red pill advice for long-term relationships without the misogyny. Red pill doesn’t have to be misogynistic!

The introduction speaks directly to women about why it’s in their best interests for their partners to become the kind of men they’ll be more attracted to.

The Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011 https://www.amazon.com/dp/1460981731/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_QP55VXK10TRZSSKYKM20

SidArthur2000 · 2021-10-19T05:17:23+00:00

This book offers sex-positive attraction and relationship advice for men, written by sex therapists who are women.

[Cockfidence: The Definitive Guide to Being The Man You Want To Be And Driving Women Wild] [Author: Hirschman MA, Celeste] [January, 2011] https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00XV3OC66/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_0JSFTN6WD0HBYZYKH71M

SidArthur2000 · 2021-10-19T05:09:24+00:00

Anthony Robbins combines self-help and mentorship. I recommend this one:

Awaken the Giant Within : How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny! https://www.amazon.com/dp/0671791540/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_WJ6NP9FY5MK5ED3T25Q5

SidArthur2000 · 2021-10-19T05:15:23+00:00

This book offers mentorship/self-help for men without misogyny.

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062506064/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_KQ39DZ37QRHT560Y5BV3

Brilliant_Usual_743 · 2021-10-19T09:47:19+00:00

John Gottman's "The Man's Guide to Women". This guy is a marriage therapist and absolutely revolutionized the field with his studies. Greatest point of reference for people who want to improve their marriage/how they relate to their partner

Icy-Statistician2260 · 2021-10-19T16:14:27+00:00

I suggest reading “models” by mark manson. Or brene brown’s book “daring greatly”

Models may sound like a pick up book but it’s actually a very honest and healthy way of living life and not just dating. Other than that I’d recommend watching Anthony recenello on YouTube. He explains by reacting to others. He actually inspired me to open my own YouTube channel.

Basically no tricks and no manipulation. Straight up vulnerability. Good luck!

FastMoneyRecords · 2021-10-19T20:28:47+00:00

No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover was a good read. I thought it was going to be a douchey, pick up artist book, but it's a lot more psychological. I even teared up at one part.

I bought The Way of the Superior Man, and have it tn my queue, and The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck is a good book on how to stop caring about frivolous things.

altcauseiamconfused · 2021-10-23T13:40:47+00:00

I have made a switch from self-help books to more mental health based content. It's still self-help but I like that it seems more science based A lot of self-help seemed to me very anecdotally based

I didn't have a mentor figure growing up, at least not a healthy one. I am now really inspired by a therapist called Kirk Honda, he has a podcast and a YouTube channel, he's so compassionate, I really want to cultivate that kind of attitude in me

CarobProper4714 · 2022-02-15T03:48:43+00:00

just like anything else in life, moderation IS the key. Is redpill the way to go? is bluepill or purple pill the way to go? is simp or any of the other catch phrases?

Or is the truth about being a healthy role model or being masculine without the negativity or having feelings something that should come from within each person. I have read Rollo Tomassis books, I have also watched a ton of Kevin samuels and Fresh and fit (though never been a fan of these two)

I think there are healthy male rolemodels, but I don't think they're famous, I don't think they're going to be making any podcasts or write any books, why?

Because being a healthy male rolemodel needs to understand and embrace

Emotions, sadness, happiness, depression, expression, repression and how other people interpret those.

Needs to understand and eloquate self help, as well as self reliance while also being able to say, you can lean on your partner, or brother, or mom and dad. Or even say, it's okay to cry, not just when your close family member dies, but also when you have a break up, or even just are having a bad day.

Male role models, healthy ones do exist - but too many of them understand that most people (even women) just want one facet of masculinity, whether that's Alpha bruhaha type, or making loads of money and wear suits masculinity (though I honestly don't consider this being masculine, but some people do) or being buff, or being smart or all those aspects. All humans are multifaceted and being a healthy role model, male or female requires understanding that, being a healthy one means you also have to be able to show the negative sides, because we are human beings, sometimes we lie, sometimes we become fearful, or hateful or spiteful. a rolemodel understands mess ups, even ones that society deems evil now, are the normal and human thing.

But that's just my opinion. And i personally have no role models - but also don't strive to be any particular person. Just a better version of myself each day.

Title	anyone else?
Author	Wrong_Signal
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Date	October 19, 2021 2:19 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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