Dating

xvszero · 2026-08-11T21:32:30+00:00

You certainly seem red-pilled. I can assure you the best case scenario is much better than it is in your imagination.

Instigated- · 2026-08-12T02:37:19+00:00

Dating apps are toxic and have way more men using them than women, so it’s not surprising you’re not having much luck on them.

Dating is hard for pretty much everyone. Men and women.

It sounds like you’ve taken a transactional approach to dating, and this could be turning women off.

If you meet someone, like them enough to exchange details, then block them because they don’t give you what you want quick enough, you are burning your own bridges.

Consider do you treat male friends in this way? Discard them if they aren’t immediately responsive or available to do what you want? Probably not. So why do you treat women this way and consider them “time wasters”?

Unless the women who you are connecting with are influencers or selling something, it makes no sense to suggest they are motivated by getting more followers. People give socials because it is safer for them than giving out their phone number.

If you’re posting something on socials that they don’t want in their feed, they stop following. This might simply mean they want to have a way to contact you (socials) without wanting to follow your feed, or it might mean they lost interest based on your DMs and social posts. They didn’t block you, so they aren’t closing the door on contact.

Meeting, exchanging details, texting, getting to know each other, are not a “waste of time” as they are all essential parts of the process. It’s like saying learning notes is a waste of time when you just want to know how to play the piano. You can’t get to the goal without doing a lot of the early stuff.

The process is you’re both trying to get to know each other and see if you’re a match. Either of you at any time can opt out if you realise it’s not a match. It’s not anything to get angry about.

It’s also the case that if you are meeting people outside of dating apps that they may not be looking to date. They may just be making new friends and acquaintances. Sometimes people know each other for years as friends, while dating other people, before they are both in a space to develop attraction for each other. If you block people because they stopped following you after two weeks, you have less future opportunities for those connections to develop.

Master-Monk-8690 · 2026-08-11T22:49:29+00:00

If you are consistently getting the same result, then you should probably try a different approach. You are doing something that causes these women to not want to meet or associate with you further.

It could be a plethora of things, or it could be one major thing. In today's society, people value their peace. It doesn't take much for me to want to stop talking to a person who I hardly know if they begin to exhibit red flags pertaining to their morality or behavior.

Stargazer1919 · 2026-08-12T15:18:04+00:00

Get off the internet and meet people in real life.

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2026-08-12T20:07:01+00:00

There is life outside of Tinder. I used Tinder around a decade ago and had a worse experience then you. I am also not white, dating apps are subtly weird to nonwhite people. Then I went back to just dating women I was meeting around or encountering in my routines and had a way better experience.

Look, I get that gen Z stigmatizes picking up women and asking out women in social circles or met through friends, and that Gen Z basically thinks every verbal misstep goes in their permanent record. but I will tell you a secret: Most of human history did not have Tinder.

As for Tinder, a lot of those instagram promoters are scammers, likely not the women on the picture. Notice how some of them try telling you to go to their shady webcam site and giving a really shady looking URL.

youalreadyknow07 · 2026-08-12T00:52:56+00:00

Okay

Significant-Gift-241 · 2026-08-11T23:08:24+00:00

Sounds like you’re the problem, bud.

Forward_Sea7969 · 2026-08-12T01:33:41+00:00

Some of the comments im already seeing who seem to gaslight your experience and write you off are why im very skeptical of this exredpill forum.

I’m sorry you’re having this experience. Once you are hurt, it’s really tough to get back out there and try again. Through my own experience (now 35), the older I’ve gotten the worse dating has gotten as the more people are sucked into their own isolated realities that validate antisocial behaviors. It does feel like a lost cause because every one is getting disillusioned and losing hope that grew up in the dating app prime years.

I don’t have any answers for other than suggestions that can help make life a little easier… keep hope alive, continue working on and getting to know yourself, invest in people already in your life, and focus on hobbies where friendship is the foundation regardless of who you’re talking to.

I hope you one day find a person you really like and have the capacity to try love again. It can really be a beautiful thing even if there’s pain at the end

Title	Dating
Author	PrivyPaul
Upvotes	0
Comments	10
Date	August 11, 2026 9:21 PM UTC (2 days ago)
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