I'm a woman with very little knowledge of the red pill ideology. I've been on a couple dates with a guy who's deeply involved in the Austin Men's Development Excellence group. He attends regular group calls and works closely with the one-on-one coach. He's generally very open about the experience, and really credits it with helping him work through his divorce a couple years ago.

I can appreciate the need for community and self-help / support groups. However, I am concerned about any group that is exclusively men (or women).

I've googled a bit. Read about their memberships, watch some videos, a little about the founder/leader. They actually seem to stand against red pill ideas, but do seem to support some PUA approaches. I suspect the majority of their beliefs are behind pay walls and only accessible to members.

I'm hoping people on this subreddit would have more expertise on the group or able to evaluate it. Should I be concerned about this particular group and its ideas? What question should I ask this guy to discover unhealthy beliefs? What language or actions should I be especially concerned about?

Apologies if this is not the correct sub. Please direct me to a better place for this discussion.