Hello everyone, nice to meet you all. I am a 22 year old male who quitted redpill content about a month-two months ago now. It started to go out of my system before, especially since I got in a relationship with a girl I very much love and I realised how some of the redpill ideas could negatively affect my relationship.

I feel like the redpill works as a manual for many men as “if x then y”, in order to determine how to act, feel or position oneself in a situation. I come here because since I quitted redpill content I feel emotionally lost to the point it’s getting too overwhelming for me.

The redpill is catered to vulnerable and insecure men mainly (it’s funny to see once you come out of it how they are just a bunch of guys projecting their insecurities onto other men through a podcast). The redpill is way more dangerous than what it seems, it can really damage the way you perceive women, life and yourself. I wish I could’ve known all this before I got sucked into it, which like many redpillers, it happened after a pretty hurtful breakup. I must say I didn’t consume RP content for longer than a year but it was everywhere in my socials and it resonated with many of my feelings and insecurities, so I got sucked in fast.

I feel like the redpill drills into your subconscious and plants seeds for ideas that you internalise and then act upon through life. The speech they use is appealing and comforting for hurt young men, especially those with insecurities or in a vulnerable position, and that’s what makes it so dangerous, paired with the fact that the speech feedbacks the insecurities and makes them even bigger and deeper as it reassures them.

Ever since coming off the redpill I feel emotionally lost. I struggle to express how I feel, to sometimes even know what I think, I have problems with communication, my ego gets triggered really easily, it’s hard for me to fully trust my partner and I feel insecure and vulnerable. The redpill depicts the world as this hostile environment where emotions are better shut off and life is just a game of power and you should never give yours. I’m finding coming off this really hard, I feel anxious, scared and I sometimes feel like I’m a kid learning basic social and relational stuff all over again.