How to avoid falling back into TRP thinking?

ihaveasmallpeniss · 2019-10-24T21:09:27+00:00

Not to be rude but how old are you?

markyp1234 · 2019-10-24T22:46:14+00:00

Here’s the most horrible thing about TRP/Incels/MGTOW/any other manosphere groups, and the one thing thats true about them all: Even if you leave them forever its toxicity will never leave you. Even if you stop believing it all, its toxicity won’t leave you, atleast for a while. I was in the manosphere for barely a few months and yet I’m having a difficult time coming to terms with it. Some other people on this sub have spent years in there.

There was one more post on this sub about it, you can look at it, its really helpful.

EDIT: check out this post its really helpful https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/dcel43/all_of_these_groups_mgtow_incels_puas_redpill/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

Bellum00 · 2019-10-25T12:07:19+00:00

" they expressed strong interest in me". How so?

"they disappear". How so?

bitchbaby1 · 2019-10-28T18:08:32+00:00

just keep trying. dont get discouraged. if youre in your 20s most women want fun and not serious relationships, even if they think they do. but there will always be women that want to get serious, and theyre wondering the same thing as you are. just be patient. when my now fiance came into my life i was out of my mind RELIEVED that i met a humble, strong, responsible, kind, intelligent unique man who was EXTREMELY honest and straightforward with me. on our 2nd or 3rd date he asked me, “are you seeing anyone else? bc i just want you. so i want to know.” i was so fucking hyped. after being abused all my life. women out there are waiting for it. just keep at it bud

starjumper_ · 2019-11-07T07:16:19+00:00

Hey man, I just wanted to say that I'm a woman and I totally understand the feeling of being an intense person and being no nonsense about relationships and dating. My boyfriend and I of four years now started out as friends and I very straightforwardly told him I liked him. Very soon after that we were dating and things have been amazing ever since, no games played and no tricks tried. In the past though the both of us only ever had bad experiences with other people, so it's just about you meeting someone who genuinely wants what you want.

A lot of girls say they want to settle down but unfortunately don't mean it (generally a fair few women and men will say shit they don't mean cus they don't understand themselves or they're just dickhead) so if you want to get to the gold, you've got to wade through the shit first.

I can't tell you how depressing it was as a woman to be told how ugly I was every single day from the age of 10-17, boys called me a thing, an it, that over there, etc. Just because I wasn't super fit and didnt wear makeup and I was a bit short. And then 7 out of 7 times throughout those years when I told a guy I liked him, every time they made it their mission to humiliate me, cus they just happened to be dickheads.

Women pride themselves on their appearance the most, it's what we're told our most valuable asset is to men, so to be told my whole life im ugly and a monster was really damaging, especially when it wasn't true at all, teenage boys and girls just liked to be horrible. I still battle with body dysmorphia and ED to this day because of it.

But then I met my boyfriend, and we're perfectly matched in what we want and how we view relationships. If you want no nonsense, you've got to seriously stick it out and keep going at it until you find the girl who says what she means and sticks around. Just try not to be all 'lets start a family and have kids blah blah blah' right off the bat 😂 and you'll be good. But make sure the girl is one you could see yourself being with in a long term relationship! Don't just go for anyone who shows interest

aryaasnark · 2019-10-30T03:43:53+00:00

You gotta kill this mentality of grouping people. "chads" "women" etc. Each person is living a life as complex and nuanced as your own, is experiencing their own set of difficulties and making choices based on how they were taught/raised. Maybe to you, one of these women ghosting you is really childish because from your vantage point, you can't understand why she wouldn't answer you after seeming interested. You have only a few pieces to the puzzle (ie your perspective). You have no clue what is going on in her life or where her priorities lie and why. The fact is, you're not entitled to a woman's attention because she was not made to just fit into your world. You are not the protagonist of everyone elses life. Just your own. Once you get passed this idea that everyone else is just a side character in your life and should fit in these boxes you created for them, you'll have a much easier time dealing with this shit. Its not your fault if it didn't work out. Your interests, expectations, schedules, etc didn't match up, simple as that. It will ultimately work when you find someone genuinely compatible with you. You seem to be doing well. Women are actively pursuing you. You go on a few dates, enjoy yourself, but it ultimately doesn't work out so you move onto the next prospective date. You're legit just describing what dating is. You're in the prime of your life and it sounds like you'd be having a good time if you'd stop beating yourself up over your perceived flaws and quit projecting your ideals onto every individual woman. There isn't a guidebook to this, or a set of rules. Just be natural, you want women to be attracted to the genuine you if you want a healthy long term commitment.

NamelessJ · 2019-11-01T05:12:32+00:00

It sounds like you are not being authentic. You should accept the fact that you've been hurt and don't try to artificially suppress it, but then move forward in life and your dating life in a way that shows empathy and respect towards women. Don't try any tactics, instead take the time to genuinely explain what you feel to the woman you are with but in a way that does not put pressure on her to respond in the way you want her to. Be real, be you, and let her be her. You are two individual people who want connection. Games and manipulation will get in the way of this.

Kitudja · 2019-10-29T20:23:18+00:00

I don’t want to play stupid psychological games anymore.

Being honest is great, but expecting honesty from everybody is naivety. If you are truly an honest person at heart, you should appreciate the value of honesty. Being honest takes bravery and strenght, as the truth is sometimes painful to accept. If you have made up your mind that you have no interest in any relationship which involved deceit, manipulation, that's great, a lot of people never get to this point. The next step is to find a partner who's similar. The good news is that we attract people of similar energies as ourselves. This is why that fake wannabe-psychopathic PUA shit works, because those autistic, fake losers with no real self-esteem attract the same kind of girls, with similarly low self-esteem and a lack of genuinity. Continue being honest and clear, do not compromise or settle.

How to avoid falling back into TRP thinking?

By realising that women have the right to be lazy, dishonest, manipulative, entitled, selfish, childish cunts, because men have a right to be shit people too. People have an unconscious bias towards their own sex because they belong to that sex. I remember reading some guys talking on one of the TRP forums about how women are sluts because "they have the audacity to enjoy sex without emotions". But we don't? Most of those autistic losers traumatise themselves by focusing on the evil part of women's nature, while absolutely ignoring the evil part of men's nature. For instance, some women fake paternity. And? Some men rape their own children... Some women act childish. And? Some men act childish too. Once you have seen the negative aspect of women's nature, you can't "unsee" it. You should not want to be naive and wishful, instead you should expect your partner to be decent, sensible and kind, while not being naive about the fact that a lot of girls aren't decent, sensible and kind. A lot of them are, a lot of them aren't.

So you have met a few more immature girls. Keep looking. Decent, honest, kind women who're looking for a healthy, reliable connection have to weed through the immature boys too.

HighAfBullfrog · 2019-11-09T12:39:41+00:00

The red pill never leaves.

MedicalNothing · 2019-11-14T18:01:29+00:00

Drink soy, let your gf have her bull, be a bugman, don’t workout, eat healthy or take care of yourself or just become incel.

Basically just live the easiest live, that’s how you’ll not fall back into self improvement.

Title	How to avoid falling back into TRP thinking?
Author	ihaveasmallpeniss
Upvotes	9
Comments	34
Date	October 24, 2019 2:58 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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