I’m conflicted. I recently got sucked in to watching @truenationredpill’s tiktoks for like an hour+. (i put the @ in case anyone wants to check it out) He explains red pill tactics and provides anecdotes and examples. I’m new to the concepts of red and blue pill.

I’m not gonna lie. Some of the tactics and shit he says seems like it would be logical. Also, I saw this tiktok where this mans wife told him that “you would be hotter if you cheated on me.” Thought it was weird. I checked the comments, and there were some people saying that “she wants to be reminded that women desire you,” and “familiarity breeds contempt.”

To me, this makes sense, if I try to understand it from a woman’s perspective. I applied this to my current relationship. I’d say I’m somewhat insecure. I’d also say that my girlfriend is secure and confident in herself. That being said, I don’t want her to get bored and leave me. It’s something I worry about quite often. She’s even told me that “she wears the pants” in the relationship, but it never bothered me because we have fun together. My ex said the same thing(wears the pants) but I ultimately ended things.

Now I’m just curious, the common red pill tactic here would be low-key manipulation to keep her interested, spike her anxiety, raise uncertainty. However, I feel as if this only works on insecure girls , for obvious reasons; they chase validation, and are fascinated with mischief.

What should I do to keep her interested if she’s already secure within herself? She has a “I don’t need a boyfriend” type of mentality. I feel as if she’s bored with me sometimes. She likes drama. Sometimes the red pill tactics seem like they would work. However, I’ve come to the conclusion that they come from a place of insecurity. I don’t want to have to do those things. Don’t want to manipulate. I just feel like girls getting bored IS a thing. And I don’t know how to prevent it before it happens, or combat it when it’s happening .

Also I want to comment on something that my girlfriend told me for some reason. She said that she called her friend and said, “hey do you think (my name) is cute, like is that still the general consensus?” Her friend said yes, but it was weird that my girlfriend would even ask that, as if she had doubts herself.. which is even weirder because she’s admitted several times that I’m out of her league. Point being , her asking her friend for this confirmation lines up with the comment I read (“women want to be reminded that their partner is desired”) which gives off hella red pill vibes...

Any advice? My thoughts are very scrambled and long,I apologize . I’m also pretty young, thought I’d mention because I know how insecure this post looks.