Need some help, am afraid.

z4ck-z · 2017-09-25T19:41:12+00:00

This is it, my friend. This is the struggle. You are making progress, you are on the right track already. Keep doing what your doing. You (and I) will always have regressions, steps backwards on our path. Just keep stepping.

Your still in your own head, just like I am. Try (I know it's hard) to be positive. Focus on what your doing right, not wrong. And do more of it.

One of the things I've noticed about this whole process is how fine the lines are. Miniscule distinctions in intent or severity make all the difference. Specifically in this case, consider:

Of course you need to focus on an end goal to make it happen at all. This golden image of a new and perfect you, a completely Zen, svelte and sexy Adonis who's perfect, and knows it without need to be told anymore. But how many of us will actually reach this zenith? Consider the goal is something to ALWAYS be quested for and NEVER fully achieved. The blunder here is to think you cannot be happy, you cannot be fulfilled, you cannot live a w life you want to live until you reach that zenith.... no.

The journey there, the struggles the steps backward is what gives it meaning in the first place, and ultimately probably all there is. You can't always be better than who you were 5 minutes ago, or the day before. Just be better than you were last month, or last year, or 3 years ago. And make sure your working on being even better than next year. Period.

The same doubts and insecurities that made you that sad sack you described years ago are still with you. They're clawing at your heals to drag you back down into Oblivion. Just keep climbing. You don't even see just how much you've already accomplished. Youve made huge improvements from then already. Just keep doing it

RedPillDetox · 2017-09-25T21:28:42+00:00

But the life has recently started taking an upward trajectory. First I left a cigg smoking addiction that had reached 7/8 a day. Then left porn that had me going 1/2 a day at least. I started going to gym, albeit intermitently, taking the stairs, lost some weight, corrected my eating habits, and have begun investing time and money and effort towards my career, adding new things to my resume. And asked a girl out (Got rejected but I was joyed in just having asked her out).

I don't see anything here but vicotries. As for the girl rejecting you, it's normal. And so it's thinking about it for a day or 2. The whole dating game is a numbers game. With my girlfriend, the first time i tried to kiss her she rejected me balantly. I kind of laughed it off and we went out to get some dinner. She was impressed at how well i took the rejection because, really, it's not a big deal, it's normal. Maybe that was the reason why she came back afterwards? Lol, i don't know.

1PaleBlueDot · 2017-09-28T22:25:08+00:00

Keep on going. How did you do today? It takes a while to make your new habits your new normal. Keep on that positive up and up.

Aricori · 2017-10-06T14:22:30+00:00

You are afraid of relapsing and that is completely normal. Listen, I do social work and have worked with addicts of all stripes. Like any addiction, relapse happens, but it’s not the end or that you are a failure!

Relapse is actually considered part of the recovery process; but with an asteroid of course. We want you to keep moving forward, but don’t hate yourself for falling back into old habits.

A good thing to do is make contact with a therapist. One who can and will teach you metacognition. You need to start learning how to think about your thinking. You’re on a very good road, but sometimes a few sessions helps iron out those few wrinkles.

You’re doing great though and I believe things will only get better. You’re always welcome here for support and some love.

AnarchyshitpostBOT · 2017-09-25T11:16:34+00:00

So what exactly is your question? How do you self-motivate? Or how do you avoid TRP propaganda?

Title	Need some help, am afraid.
Author	C4PD
Upvotes	13
Comments	10
Date	September 25, 2017 9:00 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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