What should I do, then?

sadbluefish · 2020-09-25T01:10:00+00:00

Get out of the house and go meet people is a good start.

RageStreak · 2020-09-26T00:08:34+00:00

What you should do is become a competent, useful, compassionate, fully realized human being. Become those things not so people will reward you with sex and attention but because those qualities are good for you, good for your community, and good for mankind. Get a higher goal than dates and sex.

Inareskai · 2020-09-25T07:07:35+00:00

The ability to get dates is one of those things where there are things you can control, and then there's a whole lot of chance. It's important, once you start dating, that when things don't work out you reflect on if it was chance or if it was something with you that caused it to not work out. Unless you are giving off massive red flags, most of the time it will be chance: you just didn't click with each other etc. Nothing you can do about that, sometimes you just won't be what someone is looking for or they won't be what you're looking for. That's ok, pick yourself up, move on.

As for actually getting dates... I mean, go look for dates. Go out and meet people socially OR (given the current global thing) look at dating apps. Tinder is usually considered to be a bit trash but I have friends who like it. Dating apps don't have to be for hook ups, but make sure you communicate with the people you talk to about what it is you and they are looking for.

I think Bumble is quite good for bisexuality, but I can't quite remember.

Talk to people first, see if you like talking to each other. Meet each other, see if things still feel good. From there it's not really possible to give advice that isn't super cookie cutter, because it depends on you and them and your specific relationship, so right now any advice would be vague at best.

2020-09-25T01:05:47+00:00

Well I can recommend you the book models by Mark Manson if you haven’t read it, it’s a great book on how to self improve yourself and dating without all the fake stuff

RebelRobRadio · 2020-09-25T05:19:58+00:00

The subtle art of not giving a fuck by Mark Manson and No More Mr. Nice guy by Dr. Robert Glover are great self improvement books.

chofferblower · 2020-09-25T10:52:11+00:00

Learn to set boundaries, on your own terms. Define things you don’t and won’t accept in a relationship. I think this should be one of the first steps, beside actively dating. You are valuable, your emotional well being matters, and you’re legitimate in enforcing it. So, boundaries. If you don’t feel confortable around someone, you can leave. If someone hurts you, you can leave. If someone doesn’t reciprocate your attention and care, you can leave.

2020-09-25T18:17:32+00:00

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Date	September 25, 2020 12:42 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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