Now, this wouldn’t be /r/FemaleDatingSTRATEGY if we didn’t discuss strategies here on how to get men, would we? ;) So far, we’ve all been theorizing about men and dating, but now we’re going to take concrete action so we can advance our Girl Game.

The challenge is simple: make flirty eye contact with 5 men daily. If you do more, that’s awesome, but you still need to do 5 tomorrow. Preferably, you do this with men you actually find attractive and would consider dating, but if you lack the confidence and experience, feel free to do it with men who aren’t as intimidating/attractive, just be sure to transition towards doing it with men who you do find attractive. We’re not in the business of making you lower your standards here.

The Five Second Flirt Technique

This is from the book, Getting to I Do:

“My technique is easy. It’s the way you invite him by your own body language to come across the room and ask you out. You don’t do anything more than smile, but if you do this properly, I promise you will have results.

The first thing you want to do is to get into his line of sight. When you catch his eye, you must give him the most inviting and receptive look you can manage, for three seconds. Count them. Eye contact, eye contact, eye contact. No quick counts, no matter how nervous you get.

However, catching a man’s eye for two or three seconds is quite normal. It’s when you continue to look at him for the fourth and fifth second that you indicate that you’re interested.

A second way you attract a man is with your smile! Now you’re being flirtatious. Now he knows that you’re looking at and are interested in him.

By now, because you’re flirting with a person you don’t want to be rejected by, you are probably in a panic. But here’s the good part. Even though you’re certain that he’s observing your meltdown, he isn’t, because he is too busy with his own anxiety and fear of rejection. At that moment, his worst nightmare is that he will come over to you and say something stupid, and you will turn away.

So if you live through this Five-Second Flirt Technique and you’ve managed to keep your mouth shut, more likely than not this man will walk over to you and start talking. He may say something bright or stupid, suave or naive, but in effect he’ll open the channel of conversation, and now you can begin to respond.

Why this challenge?

Online dating isn’t enough and typically attracts low quality men. You’re not just relying on a dating website for your pool of candidates. Remember: there are plenty of men out there who aren’t on dating apps. You need to take advantage of this untapped market. If you live in a big city, you have plenty of opportunities versus just relying on a dating app, because depending on where you go, you can expose yourself to the type of men that you’re looking for. If you live in a smaller city, you can still go to social events to meet the kind of men you want. Also, high quality men who will commit to a woman are rarely found on dating apps. They're too busy working and they don't want to hookup with multiple women.

Subtle Flirting will attract more men into your life. Before, when I used to go out with friends, I would just have fun with them and would just wait for men to approach me. I wouldn’t even make eye contact with them! In fact, I tried to avoid it so I won’t seem too forward. However, this year, I’ve revamped my approach and I actually have men who I would never think would be interested in me approach me just because I made strong eye contact with them and I smiled. I was a passive agent in the interaction, but now I’m more proactive. Subtle Flirting is what it means to be proactive as a woman, not approaching men. (Note that FDS doesn’t consider coming up to men “Girl Game.” To us, Girl Game in the initial stages involves influencing men to approach you. This means that you need to look approachable to their advances, but not needy for it in any way.)

This challenge will integrate Girl Game into your lifestyle. The more you make this a habit, the easier it will be for you to meet men in person. You’ll gain the confidence to attract men and have good conversation with them.

How to Post Your Entries

So post below that you’re doing this challenge. Do the challenge and you can comment on your own post like so:

Day #1
Target 1: Was feeling pretty anxious about this challenge, but was walking in downtown with lots of people, but why not. Saw a cutie in a suit, probably a finance guy, our eyes met and….
Conclusion: Overall, I’m still not used to showing men interest, but hopefully I’ll get better soon the more I do it.

Make It a Daily Habit

The goal of this challenge to make showing interest in men a habit, so you can much more easily attract men in real life, which widens your options. You no longer have to deal with low quality men on dating apps. Many women these days rely on dating apps and not a lot actually know how to capture a man's interest and get them to approach. Being the type of woman who can do it, then, gives you a distinct advantage, and you're one step closer to finding a high quality man to commit to you. ;)