Here are 4 things we may think of as “friendly,” that are actually CHASING a man:

Calling him before he calls you. This includes calling him because you heard or read about something interesting, or because you knew there was a great band playing somewhere, or someone told you about some great event that you want to invite him to or – anything at all. It also includes calling to ask why he hasn’t called you.

Initiating contact. E-mailing him, texting him, Facebooking him, sending him a cute card, dropping by his house, or in any way attempting to initiate some kind of contact.

Making suggestions or plans. Inviting him to come and join you, or in any way acting like the social director of the relationship.

Asking him how he feels. This includes, especially, asking him how he feels about “you” or the “relationship.” Credit: Rori Raye