Hey guys - I feel like lots of guys will suggest a drink date but they’ll end up getting appetizers. I usually say I’m a lightweight and can’t drink on an empty stomach and/or I’ll be like “sure, which restaurant?” But I guess I feel like sometimes they don’t suggest dinner the first time bc sometimes it seems too formal. It’s easier to get rejected if you say “let’s get drinks” rather than “let me take you in a dinner date madame.”

So I guess...I don’t do drink dates but I’m also wondering if I should like verbally ask for dinner. It seems like a bit much & kind of makes things more work on my end, especially when I know if I ask for food at the bar (most bars have food) they’ll probably buy it. I’m not sure though so I’m curious what you guys think & how you handle this. Of course I don’t want to make excuses for guys but there are also social norms that don’t have to be taken so personally right off the bat