Help! How can I protect myself from men?

blackopium777 · 2020-06-02T06:17:13+00:00

If you have absolutely nobody to count on, you will have to do it by yourself.

Your problem is probably being in a vicious circle right now. You have no job, because you're depressed. You're depressed because you have no income due to not having a job. So either you're working on your job situation or your depression.

I know people who have tried free online therapy. It wasn't groundbreaking, but definitely helped them out of a rough time. Maybe that's something that could help you to get at least a little bit of energy?

I am not familiar with the job situation in America, but I've heard that retail is in need of more workers at this moment. Do you have any qualifications? It doesn't have to be a really nice job or something, but in order to get away from your situation you need money.

Since you're living with your husbands grandmother right now, the next step would be to get away from there. Maybe there is a small apartment available that you could rent?

Once you're out of there, you can think about what to do with your husband. Emotional cheating is sometimes even worse than physical cheating. I would definitely leave his ass, no matter how hard it is.

Losing weight is basically the last step, if you really want to. Most of the times you'll lose weight once you get into a healthy mindset and get an active lifestyle. The best time to lose weight would be once you're completely healed from the shit you've been through. Otherwise it can turn into an eating disorder very fast and it's not healthy at all.

Gaki-fan-too · 2020-06-02T04:25:00+00:00

I'm so so sorry you're going through this.

Try doing a GoFundMe to raise money for yourself. Do you have friends that can help you? Other family members you can trust? Are there any shelters near you that you can go to?

Thrifty_Panda_Bear · 2020-06-02T07:32:37+00:00

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2020-06-02T15:49:20+00:00

First things first - your husband is in basic training in the military, yes? If so, you have healthcare that you can access. Do you have a military ID card? Second, he receives money specifically to house you. That is is a NOT gift from the military, it is to provide you shelter. It sounds like you have not been given any access to these benefits?

gracefullrose · 2020-06-02T10:46:48+00:00

You mentioned that your husband was "in basic" which to me indicates some form of military? Don't they have base housing or something related to the service which you can use as the spouse for getting food or shelter?

Let-it-carry-you · 2020-06-03T22:32:33+00:00

If you want to change something for better, you have to take responsibility for your life, make a decision and take action.
At the moment your issues seem huge and there are many of them, that's why it feels so scary and impossible to solve them. It can feel truly overwhelming. But please know that you are not supposed to solve them all in one day! Not even in a month or year! But you have to take action if you want to change your life. Start with the smallest step, focus on one thing first. For example, job search. Just updating your CV and sending it out. Going to interviews, landing a job. Later on, you can focus on losing weight and so on. Just step by step.

I really believe that we can start changing something in our lives only when we admit that we are responsible for it. Nobody else.

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