Help with breaking off a NV relationship?

SmallBunny0 · 2021-07-29T22:39:06+00:00

“We are no longer in a relationship, nothing you say will change my mind. Please respect my position on this and do not argue about it, and do not contact me further. I would like this to remain peaceful.”

arnezuara · 2021-07-29T22:21:37+00:00

This guide will help you with the basics. I suggest you rip that bandaid off swiftly, as soon as you can.

Make sure to document his refusal to leave you alone and be prepared to take the evidence to court, if he threatens you. Your last message to him should state that you will be pursuing legal action if he contacts/cyber-stalks/bullies you again.

If he refuses to take no for an answer, he is dangerous. Returning the console should be the last thing on your mind. Block and delete.

Painfulmenstruation · 2021-07-29T23:00:15+00:00

Blocking him is your only choice.

If he continues to contact you, make a police report against him for harassment, ask the police to contact him and tell him to leave you alone. After that, call the police if he contacts you again either directly or indirectly (through a friend) and say you are frightened and ask how to get a restraining order.

If that doesn’t work, you’ll have to change your number, move and cut off all mutual acquaintances, lock down your social media.

Keep the console. The console is irrelevant. He sounds emotionally abusive, obsessed and like he’s not going to go quietly, he is compromising your safety thus he has forfeited his right to have you contact him to return the console.

I have been in your position before, it is awful and I’m so sorry, right down to the video game console. My ex left it at my house so he’d have an excuse to come back. I too agonized over returning it because it was the “right” thing to do.

Don’t fall into that trap. He’ll take any contact you have with him to mean he can contact you again. Him receiving a package from you in let’s say, three months will also trigger him. It will reignite his feelings for you and he could become more dangerous.

Make no mistake, this LVM is NOT going to act in good faith with you. He will not suddenly become mature and reasonable.

If he really wants the console, if it is a priceless object he cherishes and can’t replace, he will mention it to the police when they contact him, the police will mention it to you in which case you ask them how to go about getting it back in his possession without you having to contact him.

top_of_the_stairs · 2021-07-29T22:51:42+00:00

Block. Delete. Rinse. Repeat. Forever. ❤️

p.s. if he's a NVM, consider that console a consolation prize

NessaMonsta17 · 2021-07-30T02:02:21+00:00

This should piss you off. He is stepping all over you. Give him his console back and cut off all ties completely. Announce to your circles of friends and what not, that due to differences, that you have broken up and have moved on a long time ago. And wish them well and that you are so happy to be free and share that you now plan to " travel and maybe even move to the another country". This way word gets around and he will give up because you are too far gonna to salvage. The story doesn't have to be true. But has to be long enough for him to move on.

Block him, and tell him to not ever contact you again. Let him know he is childish and annoying and that you decided that you don't find him attractive and that you are happy to be out of the relationship and that you feel weird with him and thus no longer attracted and feel gross even thinking of sex. It's completely over and that you do not want to be friends, and no, you do not want to share any bit of your life with him. Say EW every time he trys to flirt or touch or seduce you. Stare at his teeth with a funny look and watch him start to retract. Tell him his breathe stinks. You decide how far you gotta go to make your point.

Here is the thing. If you leave the door cracked open in the slightest he will barge through. Now is not the time to be gentle with the break up. It's a choice between him or your self. By being gentle with him, you are stabbing yourself in the back. And that's what he wants. That's why he is manipulatimg your feelings and crying wah. So whose more important your self or keeping him comfortable? Because his ass don't care about you, he cares that you stay his bang maid and make him feel good. So get pissed girl.

I had a guy do what you ex did. In the end I went cold turkey on him. I blocked him and never answered the calls. I justed picked up and hung up. He couldn't leave a voice message. He tried social media. And so I was like fine. I let him see and then I blocked him again. I was a brick wall. He had no choice but to give up. I refused to ever let that loser back in my life.

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