How to break up?

secreteyes0 · 2019-10-24T20:49:35+00:00

The obvious advice is that if you really care about his feelings, make the trip to see him and tell him the news. It’s 2 hours wasted and inconvenient, but it’ll lessen the hurt he feels tremendously.

If you break up with him over voice chat/Skype, it’s really gonna break him down that you didn’t care to do it in person. But you mention you aren’t particularly empathetic - so maybe this is fine.

Letting him come to see you, just to break up with him, is the most cruel option of the three. Don’t do that to him.

rad_daphne · 2019-10-24T20:00:42+00:00

Don't make a poor guy come an hour train ride to see you in order to jump in. He's going to want to be somewhere to cry or whatever he wants to do. I would break up over Skype.

madandunabashed · 2019-10-24T19:02:43+00:00

It's more humane to break up with him before he comes up to see you. Up to you if you want to be humane, ofc. That avoids the crying and the getting angry, too. Good luck!

goatzl · 2019-10-24T20:18:12+00:00

Stay away from super-clingy guys. Unfortunately younger guys tend to be clingy and not very mature so you will have to make the boundaries clear with them at the start. I would say break up with your current boyfriend on phone. At your age, I had to break up with my boyfriend and I choose to do the right thing and broke up with him in person. His panic attack and crying made me feel terrible for a long time afterwards. Don't subject yourself to that.

QueenOfSwords1313 · 2019-10-24T20:46:46+00:00

Is there any chance you could go to see him instead? That way he’s in his own space, and doesn’t have a 2 hour round trip just to be broken up with.

As for how to do it, just be honest. You’re on a different page and you don’t want to lead him on.

BlackEyedTeen · 2019-10-24T22:04:08+00:00

I was in your exact position several years ago, back in high school— clingy/immature/easily triggered bf who i didn’t feel as attracted to. I would suggest - waiting for you guys to have a fight/argument similar to the snapchat emoji thing - not having much of a reaction: kind of emotionally retreat and be a little distanced from the argument/situation. short, quick replies only - a few days later, break it to him either in person or on the phone saying you simply don’t feel the same anymore and that you feel you are better without each other. if he persists, say “i’m just not attracted to you anymore and there’s nothing you can do about it”

Title	How to break up?
Author	goatzl
Upvotes	0
Comments	21
Date	October 24, 2019 6:53 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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