A lot of times failed relationships are embarrassing . The person can feel even ashamed. Instead of going into mental spirals of 'why cant anyone love me?", "why does this always happen to me ?","Even if they hurt me i still love them".

We need to change our perspective on things . We should try to understand why the failure occurred . improve ourselves .learn and grow from it. Failure is a way bigger teacher then success. Embrace it and try to learn something about why this happened and how you can prevent it from happening in the future.

after i got brutally dumped by my ex over text. I needed answers and closure. It never happened. We became strangers once again. I didn't know him anymore.

I knew he was shitty etc etc. But what was it that i had done that made this relationship end? ,i wondered . No one in my life could give me those answers .somehow fds did. And im glad i found this sub. I read books that were recc and It blew my mind.I realised the mistakes i had made. Gained perspective and had grown as a person . I changed my ways and have become much happier with this knowledge.

my advice is ladies, try to learn something about your failed relationships. try to learn the lessons the people who hurt you and betrayed you taught. You will be so much more happier

-cupcake anon