I left a decent, good guy because I didn't feel worthy of him

iasminag · 2020-02-26T14:42:45+00:00

It’s because we only accept the love we think we deserve.

Work on loving and improving yourself and you will never be in this predicament again.

JOEYMAMI2015 · 2020-02-26T16:51:12+00:00

Only once but looking back, I think I did the guy a favor. I'm a 32 year old single mom, I work full time, and I have a side business as well. He was a 26 year old therapist just starting his career. He also has never dated any single mothers before. His only obvious flaw was that there was no chemistry or physical attraction between us. Long story short, I stopped responding to his texts.

Why? I immediately started thinking about all the issues that arises when one childless person, dates a single parent. I also started thinking that his family, will never approve of someone like me. Maybe I was too quick in nipping it in the bud so soon but was I really?

I hope he found someone more compatible and not a single parent! This is why I only now talk to other single fathers; specifically those who have their kid(s) most of the time. Weekend only dads don't do it for me; as a matter of fact, I found a lot of them already hate women and ugh they are such migraines to deal with yet they have the galls to complain how hard parenting is go figure lol.

And if I am meant to be alone forever will I kick myself in the butt for it? Absolutely not! :) Know your worth <3 ;)

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-02-26T15:36:55+00:00

Yep, 100%! I left one good man, though I wasn’t super attracted to him, and also declined another good one who never pushed, always took me out and paid for dates, wasn’t sleazy with me, for a totally low class violent lying, cheating, drunk, pot head who triangulated me with his ex, other female friends, and went to strip clubs and had ED issues because of all of his addictions and porn. Even now we’ve broken up he hasn’t taken any responsibility, and is literally still hurling abuse at me because I refuse to go back. So you’re definitely not alone.

I figure the best thing is to take time off dating seriously, you could still go on some dates with good men, but focus on yourself and realising and understanding what you deserve. Remind yourself of the shit things the bad guys did to you and remind yourself that no matter what you did or said, you did not deserve this and you would never allow a friend to go through that stuff. And then once you start to realise your worth more, you will realise you do deserve to be treated like the queen you are. Also keep reading here, asking questions and thinking about it critically.

It’s a big step that you’ve even recognised this in yourself.

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RiteWriter · 2020-02-26T22:46:12+00:00

I left a guy like that because he had no backbone and it was just comfortable

7_0f_9 · 2020-02-27T14:50:07+00:00

Only HVM I've ever met was my grandpa. Very few men meet the criteria these days.

Title	I left a decent, good guy because I didn't feel worthy of him
Author	Whateverrr_345
Upvotes	46
Comments	7
Date	February 26, 2020 2:37 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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