What we want in the end is respect, dignity, and love. We want to feel safe. We want to feel seen as human beings. And we should never feel ashamed of that. Every person deserves that.

You don’t have to be pretty enough, young enough, white enough, black enough, rich, successful and whatever else to have standards. Only you decide what makes you feel loved and taken care of.

You have a loving heart, you are human, and that’s enough to demand nothing but the best treatment. The people who try to bring you down for that and say you want too much should take a moment to think why they even need to use someone and treat that someone like disposable garbage. Why they want to hurt and humiliate women and mess with their minds and emotions.

The world has changed so much in the past decades. Human life is losing value because it’s getting swallowed by the economy of instant gratification, and relationships follow suit.

Love has become a dirty word. Something only schizophrenics believe in. People hide it behind euphemisms like “catching feelings”, and teach themselves how to be a product. People have begun to treat commitment and loyalty like some sort of prison sentence when it used to be a natural part of life, a rite of passage into adulthood, and reason to be proud. It’s become more taboo than being a pedo with a piss fetish.

It’s not our job to make ourselves simple, convenient, bite-sized, Internet order pocket pussy. You are not a butthole to be sold on onlyfans for 5 bucks, and our beloved liberators need Ritalin instead of sex, because being unable to focus on one thing, to wait for something, and constantly demanding instant gratification is against our own best interest as a species.

All that kink poly bullshit exists to distance people from ever needing to feel a deep bond with someone else, because that requires emotional maturity. It’s narcissistic, twisted and empty.

In the end that big important sex drive is there to create and sustain our young, and the bonding that comes with that is nature’s bonus. All of dating is just one big mating dance by the Y chromosome to prove that its mutation deserves to continue existing. You are the chooser. You get to be as picky as you want.

Mating with your screen or fucking hundreds of strangers gives you neither the opportunity to spread your genes nor the ability to bond, and being proud of that is stupid.

You, my queen, are simply a complex human being with deep emotions. What you want is natural. You are sane. You want to be human and to be treated as an individual. Don’t let anyone make you feel like a freak for not wanting to turn your vag into a McDonald’s drive thru. They’re just screeching apes trying to cheat nature, but they all end up cheating themselves out of meaning and personal growth. It’s not your problem.

And even if you don’t want kids, or marriage, or if you’re gay or ace, you never NEED to endure indignity, disrespect, pain, boredom and mediocrity to make someone else.

I’m glad women are waking up.

Thank you for coming to my TED talk.