I’ve always been under the impression that men befriend women with hopes of entering their vaginas. Still, I’ve had at least two male friends i made in Uni that have never hit on me, made me feel uncomfortable in any way. We don’t talk or hang out often which is a good boundary for me. I recently lost my mom. They both reached out and treated me to brunch and dinner. They listened and gave good advice from their own experiences with grief. I woke up this morning feel self conscious because i remember crying during happy hour yesterday with one of my male friends. And i almost felt led to apologize for the water works... but #mindshift - that’s what friends are for. He never made me feel embarrassed about my emotions . Dating a narc before and believing all men are evil was not good for my psyche. Despite this difficult time in my life, I’m grateful for the mindset shift that men can be genuine friends as long as boundaries and respect are there.