My (17) first time

stillcantsee · 2019-10-17T22:46:38+00:00

Stuff I wish I’d been told at 19 (when I lost my virginity), here for you to do with it what you will:

sexual safety is key- yea, even above protecting your ego. You can heal from heartbreak, but you can’t un-catch something that may mess with your long term health and fertility. Consistent testing and Condoms every time. I know too many people now in their 30s having cervical cancer scares because of HPV they weren’t aware they had.
if he rawdogs YOU, he’s doing it with everyone else. don’t chase community dick.
learn to make yourself cum, what feels good for YOU and speak up about it
don’t fake orgasms, it helps neither of you.

ino_y · 2019-10-18T04:20:23+00:00

A dude's erection is rarely about you, especially a soft one. If he's also 17, he's probably been looking at porn and jerking off in identical circumstances, without a woman around, for several years now. This isn't to excuse him, this is his problem to deal with, if he even wants to. If it's simply performance anxiety, that's also his problem.

It's in your best interests to learn about your own pleasure, don't rely on a dude for anything, they really don't have your interests in mind during sex.

Don't hand your power over to anyone, and don't let anyone be your judge, on anything. Don't rely on anyone for your opinion of yourself.

Sex will only get better if you confidently know what gets you off, and don't tolerate excuses and bullshit after you explain it to them once.

Good books if you can get them are "She comes first" and "Come as you are".

madandunabashed · 2019-10-18T12:49:02+00:00

You’re right, him going soft had nothing to do with you. Don’t feel bad about it, that’s a him problem.

You didn’t randomly become too tight for him, you just weren’t wet enough. This is totally normal too, for a variety of reasons. Not enough foreplay, you were feeling nervous, etc.

I promise you, sex gets better. But you not being able to make yourself orgasm is a big hindrance in your ability to enjoy sex with others. How can you guide a guy on what feels good when you don’t know it yourself?

Don’t worry, you’ll get there. Have your bf watch a ton of videos on how to give oral and have him go down on you for as long as it takes.

DelicateDream · 2019-10-18T23:35:40+00:00

“Randomly too tight” - you were turned off. Understandable. And first time isn’t good for most and yes it gets better.

Title	My (17) first time
Author	urlocaltokenblakgirl
Upvotes	4
Comments	9
Date	October 17, 2019 10:00 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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