This is a strategy that I have employed for a number of years now, regarding how to handle breakups and keep myself from losing control and value during difficult times.

**note: if you are a dedicated FDS follower and apply all strategies laid out in this sub to the letter, you will already know that getting emotionally involved with a man is dangerous and to be avoided if possible. However, I am a traditionally romantic person and love being in love. I know there are many women out there like me, this is for us.

It’s quite simple. I have a pre-assigned time period that corresponds with the duration of the relationship. If a breakup occurs and I’m not ready for it- if I didn’t see it coming, or am otherwise not emotionally prepared- I give myself that exact period of time to grieve. No more, no less.

It’s an easy formula. If the relationship lasted for one week (or fraction thereof), I get a day. One month, I get one week to be upset. One year, one month. And so forth.

So, let’s say you dated someone for six months and out of nowhere got dumped because men are snakes. You give yourself six weeks- that’s about a month and a half- and you really truly feel that pain. You talk about it with your friends if you want, you do self-care, you block him from your life completely... whatever you need to to do reach the goal of having erased him completely by the end of that six weeks. Earlier is better. In the end, your life will be better without him. His life will suffer without you in it. You are the asset, he is the liability.

And then, after you’ve gotten out all the hurt and anger, you move on like he never existed.

It’s so easy, and it works like a charm. Set goals for yourself and you will achieve them.