Hello FDS!

After years of dating LVMs and being a pickmeisha I finally found what I would call an HVM. We've been dating for 3 years and we've had our ups and downs but he is always very respectful. We always talk out our problems and he treats me like a queen. He pays the bills and is working toward finding his dream job whilst working his current job to pay the bills and his student debt. We've been living together for the last year and a bit and we do spend a lot of quality time together (date nights, long drives, spending the night in sometimes etc).

Lately (the last 4 months) have been kind of tough, as we haven't been having sex often. When we do he either can't finish or loses his boner during. I have sexy lingerie and toys that I've tried to entice him with but didnt work. We've talked about it and at first he said it's just a regular turn of events, i.e. we've been dating for a while so we're not dying for sexual affection and therefore have sex less, and that he's fine with that. He claims that he's just comfortable and we don't have to be so hot and heavy all the time.

After a couple of months of having sex once a month though, I brought it up again and this time he claimed its depression/anxiety that's causing him to limp. I'm not sure if this is the case as he still watches porn and masturbates. I know according to FDS porn isn't acceptable but we've generally had a pretty good sex life (i.e. he's not into hard sex or any domination kinks even when I've suggested it). Our sex life was very loving and he was very generous (always goes down on me etc) and seemed to enjoy it. I know porn is harmful but I've snooped around his phone and computer and the porn links I found were mostly 1-1 regular sex or sensual lesbian porn, also didn't find any alarming conversations with girls that would indicate cheating or anything.

Doing a bit of research it seems ED is pretty common among guys and we've discussed getting some help from a psychologist. Our appointment is in a month but meanwhile I feel very rejected and anxious. We still spend a lot of time together in terms of date night or long drives but it never concludes with sex anymore & it's making me feel really awful.

I guess I should also disclose that I'm an a recovering addict and therefore cut off all the 'friends' I had before so I dont feel like I have anyone to talk to about this stuff. Is this a 'rough patch' in our relationship or are these behaviours of a LVM and I should end things?

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EDIT: Thank you for all your comments ladies, it really brings me some clarity. I'm going to ask him to stop watching porn and if things don't improve over the next month or so I'm ending it. Upvotes for all because ya'll are fantastic; stay regal, Queens!