Needy men are not attractive. As a woman, I am instinctively attracted to a man who is strong. A man I can lean on for support. A man who takes care of himself and handles his own emotions. I was once with a man who constantly complained. Every little problem he had, he would tell me about, and he constantly looked to me for support. It turned me off FAST. Why? Because if he couldn't handle himself, his life, and his own emotions, how could I look to him to handle mine? No woman wants to be a man's mother. A man is supposed to be your husband, your partner, NOT your child. This is why women don't like weakness. Some men complain that they're nice, so why don't women want them? Are they strong? Do women feel like they can rely on them? Women are naturally attracted to strength. The right man is a man who is strong for himself and for you, and underlying all of that, he LOVES you.