I miraculously found this sub last year. Like so many others, I found myself in (yet another) unfulfilling relationship with a man only this time it was abusive both mentally AND emotionally, and he wouldn’t even date me.

It was not, and had not up to that point, been uncommon for me to be in unsatisfying, low effort relationships but this one was a whole new level of sad. It’s like I took all the pickmeisha energy I had been garnering over the years and shoved it all down this man’s throat who was not interested in me no matter how “good” I was. He just wanted to control me and then discard me. I could go on and on about what happened but I don’t find that to be quite relevant now.

Point is, this was my last straw. I have been alone since June. I’m happy about that. Of course it is tough sometimes but leveling up is also the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done.

I’ve noticed so many small but important changes over the last 6 months which astounds me.

I used to think that I “needed” to be in a relationship and would begin to feel “too lonely” if I had been single for “too long” or hadn’t had sex “in x amount of time.”

Now, the most important relationship, the only one I need, is with me.

I love being single and it bothers me less and less to consider the rest of my life without a partner.

FDS has restructured my attitude and standards from the inside out. I do not do OLD anymore. My expectations are extremely high and for the first time in my life, I believe that I am worth it.

I no longer pay attention to men. I allow myself to feel anger (which I never used to let myself feel) over the way society treats women. Especially how libfem really brainwashed me to accept less and less and not see my own worth. This is anger that I’m allowing myself to feel, process and let go and it feels good.

I have never had an ex “come back” which used to make me feel horribly about myself. The reality, I’ve noticed, is that not having that is an absolute gift.

AND

I have to say that the thing I’m most excited about is COMPLETELY dedicating 2021 to not dating and continuing to level up.

6 months was great but I’m looking forward to 12 full months and beyond.

I would probably still be trying to get that man to love me if I’d not found this sub 🤮

Praise be, FDS!