Hi everyone, this post will be about that I consider important points in choosing a partner for life and having children. I encourage everyone to share their points too and help each other to elevate own standards.

  1. Family that he came from. I always look at it- must have degrees, (preferable) no divorce, no genetic diseases, no criminal records, no big public scandals. Grandma told me that marrying a man means marrying his whole family too.
  2. A man's reputation. His good achievements highlights yours, his wrongdoings make society thinks that you are an accomplice too. People also may suffer from a smear campaign but it's clear once you meet them if is true or not.
  3. Emotional intelligence is a must, it can be learned and developed trough relationship even better (if both young and your first relationships )but if he doesn't have from start better stay away.
  4. Loves cats. It's may sound weird but i noticed that men who don't like cats are kinda shady and abusing.
  5. ! Stay away from religious men if you are atheist or different faith, all major religions are patriarchal, treat women as second class citizen, employ a hierarchy where men and women aren't equal. A man can pretend that he is ok with your position and after years left you for a virgin from his community.
  6. Politics, money and religion - 3 position what you need to have in common. Couples divorce because of one of this incompatibles.
  7. Respect. My grandma told me that is most important part of a relationship. Love fade/change, honeymoon phase transform but respect and feeling an equal partner remain the foundation.
  8. Friends : tell me who are you friends and I'll tell who are you.

what would add you?