Self-sabotaging, Self-defeating behavior: choosing to remain single after a break up guarantees that you'll watch your ex move on. DATE OTHERS, ladies

Halofriend101 · 2019-10-14T17:13:42+00:00

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with remaining single after. I think it’s important to take time to heal if you’re hurt. Jumping right into the next thing is usually a sign that you’re looking for something external, another person, to make you feel better. I personally do not think that’s healthy. Women should be okay feeling alone and be able to sit with that feeling if it’s going to help you grow in the long run.

BUT, i do think if it’s been months and the person feels stuck in a rut, it can be ok to get cute, go on a date, and see how you feel. I’d never rush the healing process though, it’s super important.

griffinknight1 · 2019-10-14T21:25:32+00:00

Dude no be single for a bit. Get to know the new you then while he’s having meaningless sex and begging to have to back. You’ll be too busy having the time of your life to care what their up to.

Self love is the best cure for a broken heart

soxychamp · 2019-10-14T17:54:06+00:00

If I’m not watching my ex in the time I’m choosing to remain single after a breakup, then I won’t be watching him move on

In fact I won’t be watching him do shit at all

I think while the advice is well meaning, dating just for the sake of dating after a devastating breakup might be counterproductive. There is value in staying alone for a while to work through your feelings and clear your mind before going out to date again. Don’t want to keep repeating bad dating patterns just to beat your ex in the breakup competition (he’s irrelevant)

JuddHerpatow · 2019-10-14T19:40:14+00:00

I think people should focus not on who gets a new girlfriend/boyfriend first, but why you're dependent upon someone's opinion of you. The hardest part about dating is realizing that dating is largely structured around the other person being a crutch for your ego.

Title	Self-sabotaging, Self-defeating behavior: choosing to remain single after a break up guarantees that you'll watch your ex move on. DATE OTHERS, ladies
Author	_HEDONISM_BOT
Upvotes	19
Comments	8
Date	October 14, 2019 4:46 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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