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| 11 | I wish I knew then what I know now.I love to see self-love instead of shaming on here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 02:11 PM |
| 4 | How to go about dating as an avoidant type?therapy sis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 12:29 AM |
| 2 | Important Points on Self-Love/ Self-Respect. Read even if you don’t think you have low self-esteemGreat post | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 12:27 AM |
| 3 | My relationship with my misogynistic and narcissistic father has caused me to be completely out of touch with myself/a pickmeishaFirst of all I don't believe it's healthy to shame yourself by calling yourself a "pickmeisha." There's a clear reason why you are the way you are and it doesn't make you any less worthy of love than a woman who has high self-esteem. You are a prize, regardless if you haven't gotten around to feeling that way about yourself. I would recommend therapy and not allowing men into your life that make you feel like crap because that reinforces low self-esteem. Start asking yourself if you even like th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 05:45 PM |
| 9 | Reframing of the Pickme PhenomenonThey can most definitely be socialized to be different. Most men are the way they are because of the toxic socialization that fuels patriarchy. Hopefully women who don't subscribe to these ideals will teach their sons to be better men. Once they're adults, it's a fucking task to get them to look at themselves with a critical eye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 05:22 PM |
| 0 | Strategy after the friend zoneIt’s not about getting defensive. I just feel like every time I come on this forum people make all assumptions about what someone might be feeling + how they’re not getting all they need instead of just listening to understand. They even make stuff up that the person never said. It’s frustrating to say the least. I think the solution is just not to post and follow my gut. Just seems like advice is always skewed toward the negative. There’s a difference between irrational standards from people wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 12:50 PM |
| -1 | Strategy after the friend zoneI have other options. I’m still dating. I just actually like him. Thanks for the suggestions. It’s again, not about teaching him, it’s about switching the dynamic back. It was just yesterday that we discussed so I might not even have to but wanted some input. And lmao, at don’t flinch 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 12:43 PM |
| -2 | Strategy after the friend zoneLet go of what? I am excited about him, hence why I’m asking the question. It was just a much slower start and I needed the time to get to know him without the pressure of dating. It takes time to truly get to know someone and with him, I did that better as just friends. I asked for strategy advice. I know my worth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 11:59 AM |
| 50 | How do you respond when a guy suggests an inconvenient date spot?I feel your approach was fine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 12:23 AM |
| 24 | What are your qualities? No, I don't mean qualities that serve others, I mean qualities about who you are as a person. We spend so much time thinking on what we should DO to be High Valued we often we forget about what we ARE! If you never thought about it before, here is your cue.I am funny! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 04:25 PM |
| 2 | This has been trending on twitter a bit and I just wanted to know what you guys think about thisAlso, this is the bare minimum. I've had trash men still show up for me in an emergency. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 01:05 PM |
| 2 | This has been trending on twitter a bit and I just wanted to know what you guys think about thisyes, I agree. Even if you don't have feelings for the man you're sleeping with, he should have respect and care for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 01:00 PM |
| 18 | PickMes really wanna try and bring other women down with their bullshit. “His rent” like she doesn’t even live with her man.I just searched her name and a couple words from the post and she later says. “Lmao I’m lying” she’s one of those people that tweets to go viral and promotes her business on viral posts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 08:05 PM |
| 59 | PickMes really wanna try and bring other women down with their bullshit. “His rent” like she doesn’t even live with her man.Lol I just looked it up. It was a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 07:36 PM |
| 9 | PickMes really wanna try and bring other women down with their bullshit. “His rent” like she doesn’t even live with her man.Are you sure this ain’t sarcasm? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 07:16 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with emotionally "cold" menSometimes people have to learn the hard way. You’re a good friend for trying to make her realize but at the end of the day, she has to make her own decisions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 06:39 PM |
| 12 | Dealing with emotionally "cold" menWell then they’re not compatible emotionally and she has to decide if she wants to put up with it. I wouldn’t. She’ll always be left disappointed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 06:36 PM |
| 25 | Dealing with emotionally "cold" menYeah he does sound depressed or maybe avoidant in relationship. There’s no advice but stop hanging with him if she doesn’t like it. He’s not going to change. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 06:29 PM |
| 8 | Female travellers and the dudes who offer to 'pay your way'I’ve done this on a few occasions. I make sure I put on the table immediately that I’m not willing to have sex. Once I did end up having sex because I wanted to, the others knew the deal, but it is a risk because you don’t know who you’re dealing with. I always follow my intuition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 06:27 PM |
| 22 | It’s not a sneaky manipulation tactic to only want a man who wants to be with youAgreed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 04:10 AM |
| 44 | It’s not a sneaky manipulation tactic to only want a man who wants to be with youWho really thinks that’s manipulative though? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 04:06 AM |
| 37 | Since when does this approach work?!Why did I just laugh out loud | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 04:01 AM |
| 23 | The effort my partner puts in...He should do these things. That’s how you deserve to be treated | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 03:33 AM |
| 14 | What Kinds of Tips/Tricks Do You Use to Figure Out How Extensive A Man’s Porn Use Is?One time this dude straight up told me he had a porn addiction, but it had gotten better. He was still watching every day but didn't see a problem with it because he had cut down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 03:25 PM |
| 10 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.Fucktard | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 01:39 PM |
| 5 | Daily reminder 💕Yeah, if you have to guess, it's a no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 01:33 PM |
| 2 | I thought this was a pretty good article. Bad headline thoughNo, that person is less likely to get married than someone who has been married and divorced. Nothing without a ring and certificate is marriage. They did not put a timeline on how long the marriage was. The article says that a man who has been married + divorced is more likely to get married than an older man who has never been married. That’s when their bachelorism is setting in stone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 11:31 AM |
| 8 | I thought this was a pretty good article. Bad headline thoughYikes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 09:04 PM |
| 19 | I thought this was a pretty good article. Bad headline thoughI’d say 28-34 lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 06:45 PM |
| 31 | I thought this was a pretty good article. Bad headline thoughDefinitely. I do think there is a small percentage of men who love back in the same way, but it’s like finding one pink skittle in a sea of yellow ones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 06:44 PM |
| 7 | I thought this was a pretty good article. Bad headline thoughMakes more sense as a book headline to get people to buy it lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Arguments vs. problem solvingYES! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 05:35 PM |
| 1 | I slept with him...am I useless to him now. What do I do?Yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 05:34 PM |
| 6 | I slept with him...am I useless to him now. What do I do?Yikes girl. Move on from this asshat number one. Number two, definitely work on your self-esteem alone. If you feel like crap about yourself, you will date guys that treat you as you treat yourself. It's time to level up sis. This isn't about him. It's about the fact that he rejected you and you think if he could just validate you then you would feel good but that's false. He will continue to use you and get whatever he can from you as long as you allow it. I'd recommend getting back into therap… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 05:31 PM |
| 5 | Today I Realized My Co-worker is an FDS OGYASSSS QUEEEN | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 05:28 PM |
| 2 | To Lauren Chen, The Manosphere, and anyone else who thinks we’re “wrong” for encouraging our members to lie to men about their sexual history.I don't think as adults we should ever feel obligated to disclose our sexual history unless there is some medical issue that our sexual partner needs to know about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 05:27 PM |
| 1 | I ain’t sitting therehahahha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 02:09 PM |
| 63 | I just told my bf he never made me comeHe locked himself in the bathroom over that comment? He's fragile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 02:03 PM |
| 7 | If a guy likes you, nothing will stop him from trying to connect with you.Awww! that's cute | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 01:33 PM |
| – | Man threatens to murder his own sister if she grows up to be promiscuous. THIS IS WHY YOU DONT TELL MEN JACKSHIT ABOUT YOUR SEXUAL HISTORY.Just seems like a huge jump to diagnose that someone has been sexually assaulted from one post is all I’m saying. Not that I don’t understand that his behavior is inappropriate and toxic as someone who works in mental health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 03:46 PM |
| -38 | Man threatens to murder his own sister if she grows up to be promiscuous. THIS IS WHY YOU DONT TELL MEN JACKSHIT ABOUT YOUR SEXUAL HISTORY.that's a reach | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 02:02 PM |
| 1 | Man threatens to murder his own sister if she grows up to be promiscuous. THIS IS WHY YOU DONT TELL MEN JACKSHIT ABOUT YOUR SEXUAL HISTORY.yuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 02:02 PM |
| 11 | I'm a massive Pickmeisha, so I broke up with my boyfriend today.Right Ms. Diva No one here should be shaming others as if they have it all figured out. Most of us have been in situations we're not proud of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 01:47 PM |
| 1 | I'm a massive Pickmeisha, so I broke up with my boyfriend today.Glad you did it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 01:37 PM |
| 0 | Do you all have sex timeline?It happened today after I expressed that I don’t think the rules are set in stone. I’ve actually been dating a guy for two months and we haven’t had sex and it’s going great. I literally just came on here to hear other opinions. So much for women empowerment! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 11:53 PM |
| 2 | Do you all have sex timeline?Yea, that’s it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 11:42 PM |
| 9 | Do you all have sex timeline?I agree with that quote for sure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 10:01 PM |
| 3 | Do you all have sex timeline?I don’t plan on following a set of rules. My post was to hear different opinions. My personal opinion on this is to wait, at least a month but wanted to hear others perspectives. I don’t think there is a one all formula personally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 08:20 PM |
| 3 | Do you all have sex timeline?Agree | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 06:53 PM |
| 5 | Do you all have sex timeline?Do you progress sexually in other ways like kissing, etc so it seems like a gradual increase? Like I don't know why guys ever think I'd be comfortable kissing them on a first date, but to me it'd be weird if I hadn't kissed them by the third date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 06:51 PM |
| 8 | Do you all have sex timeline?Ohhhh, i love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 06:25 PM |
| 3 | Do you all have sex timeline?Is that a collection of different opinions? which is the point of the question. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 06:16 PM |
| 12 | How a HVW handles a date requestAmen, since I stopped drinking this is much easier too. They request coffee dates and I've straight up said no, I don't accept coffee dates as they don't take any effort. He agreed and we went to brunch. He's great thus far. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 06:07 PM |
| 6 | Thought of you ladies immediately 😂haaaaa | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 12:46 PM |
| 1 | Ghosting after a first date?The crazy part is he doesn’t see himself as a total prick, he really thinks he’s a good guy, not realizing his views are seriously offensive to women. It’s a damn shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 10:55 AM |
| 6 | Don't tell men how horrible other men are.I just thought it was weird as hell and a clear disregard of boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 05:11 PM |
| 14 | Don't tell men how horrible other men are.This guy on my last date was fucking asking me about childhood trauma on the first date... and if I felt I'd be a good mother considering.... I was like WTF. Then I was like "oh my longest relationship was a year." He tried to belittle me and say "oh so you never been in a relationship." I corrected him. And then he got so mad when I was like well I have a lot of male friends ya know and we have a lot of fun lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 01:01 PM |
| 53 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.Yeah the first time you mention sex as a joke, Issa unmatch lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 08:06 PM |
| 3 | Those Who Don't Want A Relationship But Want to Benefit From MenI don’t think it’s hard to find a rotation. You won’t really like the guys like that. You’ll prob have 4 you keep around cuz you have fun-ish times and one out of the bunch you really like. Go out a lot. Get on dating apps. Act aloof sometimes. That’s what is working for me. Today, this man spent $400. Took me to dinner and a concert. I had so much fun but I don’t like him at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 06:01 AM |
| 5 | Those Who Don't Want A Relationship But Want to Benefit From MenMhmm maybe I will get them for another post lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 01:59 PM |
| 7 | Those Who Don't Want A Relationship But Want to Benefit From MenYes.. sounds amazing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 11:11 PM |
| 13 | Those Who Don't Want A Relationship But Want to Benefit From MenI don’t think there’s any false ego stroking lol. She’s just an asshole and they want validation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 10:46 PM |
| 37 | Those Who Don't Want A Relationship But Want to Benefit From MenAlso my 75-year-old grandma said when she was young she used to refuse things from men because she was “independent.” She now tells me she was a fool lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 10:36 PM |
| 14 | Those Who Don't Want A Relationship But Want to Benefit From MenI’m sure you are! I just started doing it and I’m like... have I been missing out all these years?! I just think I was way too emotional before. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 10:34 PM |
| 3 | Dating for three days does not equate to getting sex.He's an idiot lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 10:06 PM |
| 2 | [X-post] from reddit.com/r/motivation/comments/ducha2/love_it/. OMG but the comments!Go girl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Update - don’t go for men who say they don’t want monogamy.Amen Miss Tilly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 06:45 PM |
| 4 | Guys who literally just want to text you all the time with no plan to ever meet.Lol got it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 03:56 PM |
| 12 | Guys who literally just want to text you all the time with no plan to ever meet.I don’t. Just venting about how annoying it is. You couldn’t Pay me to send a nude lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 03:26 PM |
| 9 | Guys who literally just want to text you all the time with no plan to ever meet.Agreed! After two days I’m like ok... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 02:32 PM |
| 18 | Guys who literally just want to text you all the time with no plan to ever meet.Lol damn | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 02:29 PM |
| 12 | Guys who literally just want to text you all the time with no plan to ever meet.They’ve been dropped but there’s always more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 01:55 PM |
| 8 | I’m only thankful I learned my lesson and levelled up my attitude and my standards.Right | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 02:23 AM |
| 8 | Boy, BYE!!!Wow. story of my life so many times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 01:25 PM |
| 6 | I really just need some encouragementThank you for this. I know I deserve happiness. I truly do. I didn’t when I first started therapy but I do now but unfortunately the impact of trauma is on a brain level. I know I deserve better than him but it’s like by body plays out the same saga from childhood because that’s What it’s used to. That’s why I said it’s frustrating that no matter how much work and self care I do, and how much I know I deserve love, i don’t receive it in the way I’d like. I’m still a work In progress. I know I’m … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 07:06 PM |
| 1 | I really just need some encouragementNo. Once I said no, she allegedly realized he had feelings for me so she told him she didn’t want me seeing me so they are in some weird open relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 06:50 PM |
| 2 | I really just need some encouragementHe actually did want me to meet his gf and I said no thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 06:47 PM |
| 3 | I really just need some encouragementOur own wounds | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 06:46 PM |
| 3 | I really just need some encouragementYes. This are all things I’ve started to learn recently but old patters die very hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 06:46 PM |
| 2 | I really just need some encouragementI knew him before he was in an open relationship so the attachment was there beforehand. I’d never go into it like that. Yeah, this group is helpful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 06:45 PM |
| 3 | I really just need some encouragementYeah I mean he was all wrong from the beginning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 06:31 PM |
| 5 | I really just need some encouragementI ignored that his words didn’t match his actions even from the time I first started dating him. He’d tell me he liked me so much then disappear. This recent time he said “I love you” and that he felt the exact same about me even though he was in an open relationship. He’d always be asking things like “are you going to cut me off?” “Do you see me in your life?” I cut him off today and he said he understands why I need to and he knew it was coming but thank you for all the wonderful times togethe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 06:27 PM |
| 8 | My experience as a Red Pill WomanI've been a red pill woman a few times and I am trying to break the cycle. I could use some encouragement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 05:44 PM |
| 14 | FDS Discussion: How are you working on yourself?I work on myself but also go through periods where I’m a fucking mess because depression. I workout I cook I do yoga I read books I go to therapy weekly I am often taking inventory of what I could be improving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/19 03:34 AM |
| 37 | This sub has made me realize something about the men I've dated.I was courted by a guy who paid for everything and he’s still a lying cheater lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/19 03:29 AM |
| 65 | Never let him "talk you into" sex.Yep so true. In my younger years I had sex with people for the DUMBEST reasons. Honestly though, you don’t need to shame yourself. It happened and you grew from it. Now you can pass that knowledge onto others, which you’re doing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/19 02:12 PM |
| 5 | Am I being irrational?Nah. You did not overreact. That’s extremely disrespectful. No man should say that after y’all have had sex. He sucks. Keep it moving girl. Your intuition is always right. There’s a lot of men that will try to talk to you that just aren’t worth your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 10:41 AM |
| 9 | Do you want closure or do you want to see if he came up with enough lies to get you to settle?Never been more true. I don’t send long paragraphs no more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/19 04:06 PM |
| 2 | A message to the moids brigading:While I believe in the point of this group, to empower women to get for what they deserve and provide strategy for that. Why does that so often translate into anger and bitterness. Commanding respect and valuing our needs doesn’t have to go hand and hand with male bashing. We can acknowledge that the men of this age are seriously lacking and their treatment of women is horrendous but it feels like when you are harbor that much anger, it only affects you. Who really cares about what you’re callin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/19 11:26 AM |
| 2 | Giving your number to men on apps?Lol I never had any of those experiences, but I happily block people all the time and that solves that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/19 12:06 PM |
| 8 | Giving your number to men on apps?That seems excessive. 9 months though... you must not like him that much lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/19 09:13 PM |
| 17 | Giving your number to men on apps?Lmao. I’m dead. Him: babe, it’s been like 6 months can we move off bumble. Me: let me get back to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/19 06:46 PM |
| 22 | Giving your number to men on apps?I said no and he unmatched me lmao! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/19 05:20 PM |
| 4 | Giving your number to men on apps?Right... like... you haven't even attempted to make conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/19 04:34 PM |
| 11 | What are some examples of coded language to look out for when dating men? Translations?I'm a nasty, kinky motherfucker and I'll shame you for not being "open minded" enough about my goat. knifeplay gangbang fetish. This is so accurate. This guy I stopped talking to because he said I needed to be more "open minded" is now dating a girl in an "open relationship," who is cool with them having threesomes with other men. Whatever she wants, I guess but "it's a no from me dawg." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/19 02:40 PM |
| 29 | What are some examples of coded language to look out for when dating men? Translations?"Let's just see where it goes" - I have no intention of taking it anywhere. "Let's take it slow" - I have no intention of taking it anywhere. "I like where things are headed" - I have no intention of taking it anywhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/19 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else just get highly annoyed when men wont leave them alone?Did you ask him to stop touching you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/19 02:37 PM |
| 2 | I'm not like other guysLol so true! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/19 02:36 PM |
| 4 | The Art of the Tease: Mastering Sexual TensionI was gonna say wtf is this. Like why are we making a rule list to how women should sexually court a man. Women should do whatever they F they want. If you want to have sex, have sex. Just know he might not stick around. You take that risk anytime you have sex, no matter how much you "followed the rules for success." Plenty of people who have sex on the first few dates and are in longterm partnerships, but having to have a sexual rule list to get a guy sounds utterly exhausting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/19 11:58 AM |
| 15 | Had a great first date yesterday! Untill he wanted to split the bill.yeah, he'd never hear from me again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/19 11:41 AM |
| 16 | I came to a realization about men..." Maybe if we take stock of our weaknesses and become even stronger and more attractive, and we stop taking shit, men will slowly improve themselves." You had me until this. Women "being better" doesn't make men better. I would rather be single forever with my beautiful, strong friends than be beholden to a man that drags me down and dims my light. BUT YES, same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/19 11:38 AM |
| 8 | Am I the only one who feels this way?Yes. I hate when men also call me “love.” The pet names are ridiculous. You don’t even know me. Call me by my name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/19 01:27 AM |
| 2 | Totally turned off by menI’m not dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/19 08:36 PM |
| 3 | Totally turned off by menYep I’m there now. Been dating myself for a while. I guess it’s timing but I don’t feel like I care but that’s why I was like ummm is this a good or bad reaction lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/19 08:30 PM |
| 5 | Totally turned off by menSame | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/19 02:44 PM |
| 3 | Totally turned off by menI’m not even dating. I’m just saying in general. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/19 01:25 PM |
| 8 | Totally turned off by menLol I’ve recently considered dating women but I didn’t want to be a stereotype. You know how sexists are always like “oh you’ve been so hurt by men that you date women now.” I know I shouldn’t care. I do want to get married and have children but I’m just really really over it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/19 12:25 PM |
| 2 | Guys are callous opportunists and that requires us to be ruthlessThat wasn’t ghosting. He did something wrong. She thought he should apologize. He didn’t think it was necessary. She maintained her boundary of a certain level of respect. Boundaries do not have favorites. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/19 10:07 AM |
| 6 | I HIGHLY suggest every woman in this sub watch SheraSeven1 on Youtube.I just watched some of her videos and she’s funny. I don’t agree with the game playing advice about ignoring him, etc. Guys you have to play these games with aren’t the guys you want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/19 05:16 PM |
| 34 | Self-sabotaging, Self-defeating behavior: choosing to remain single after a break up guarantees that you'll watch your ex move on. DATE OTHERS, ladiesI don’t think there’s anything wrong with remaining single after. I think it’s important to take time to heal if you’re hurt. Jumping right into the next thing is usually a sign that you’re looking for something external, another person, to make you feel better. I personally do not think that’s healthy. Women should be okay feeling alone and be able to sit with that feeling if it’s going to help you grow in the long run. BUT, i do think if it’s been months and the person feels stuck in a rut, it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/19 05:13 PM |
| 10 | Is there ever a good way to friend-zone after one date? What do you make of the "I already have enough friends" response?Nothing to say. Move along lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/19 05:09 PM |
| 9 | Just a reminder...I don’t think you’re wrong in wanting to leave him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/19 11:55 PM |
| 11 | Just a reminder...Wow. Girl. Something my therapist told me, if they can’t show up for you in the little things (like a text), how will they show up for the big things! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/19 11:46 PM |
| 6 | Just a reminder...Good for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/19 05:19 PM |
| 5 | Just a reminder...Oh yeah lol. Well at least you’re able to differentiate what’s a trigger from what’s real! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/19 03:43 PM |
| 7 | Just a reminder...That’s totally different. Everyone checks their phone within ten hours. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/19 03:42 PM |
| 11 | Just a reminder...You can do better than someone who takes ten hours to respond if he does this regularly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/19 03:40 PM |
| 3 | *Some Women Have Literally NO Self Esteem:* Husband cheats with MtF Transgender Prostitute Unprotected and transmits herpes to Wife; wife is wondering if she should continue to have sex with him??? 🤨Agreed! And not shaming someone who already has low self-esteem. I’m not really sure why people think that’s productive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/19 01:51 PM |
| 14 | *Some Women Have Literally NO Self Esteem:* Husband cheats with MtF Transgender Prostitute Unprotected and transmits herpes to Wife; wife is wondering if she should continue to have sex with him??? 🤨I think as women, instead of shaming women for not having self-esteem and then saying the age-old “this is why men do what to they do!” We should be building up other women as women and reminding them what they do deserve. Other women aren’t the enemy. They’re just caught up in the same patriarchal system, shaming doesn’t help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/19 01:50 PM |
| 0 | When I saw Lizzo at a concert she said something that I'll forever love. And ladies this is the truth right here "dont love fuckboys because fuckboys dont love themselves."So true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/19 01:18 PM |
| 7 | Inexperienced but interested?Continue to flirt, but let him pursue you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/19 11:51 PM |
| 11 | I met an amazing guy!Yeah. I get it. The only thing you need to do is be yourself and remain confident. If he’s for you, that’s enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/19 11:50 PM |
| 26 | I met an amazing guy!You are the prize, not him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/19 11:29 PM |
| 3 | i’ve decided to cut off this guy that i really likeI would just tell him and move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/19 10:06 PM |
| 18 | Should I believe when they say they are not ready for a relantionship?Yes. He wants the benefit of a relationship without any responsibility for his actions or your emotions. Walk away fast. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/19 10:04 PM |
| 21 | Ex who dumped me came back saying he loves me.I think you need to be VERY careful. I think people rarely change unless they’ve done the inner work. I would be his friend if you’d like but wouldn’t give him a second chance anytime soon. Men tend to do this once they realize they had a good thing and messed it up but it doesn’t mean or prove that he has changed. Flowers don’t mean he has changed and neither do his words or actions for a short while. Do you want to take the risk with your heart is what you have to ask yourself because it is a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/19 10:02 PM |
| 15 | Trust, but first verifyNo judgement but I wouldn't want that red flag ass dick (spiritually or mentally). I commend women who can separate sex from emotions though. A man that would do that is not someone I want anywhere near me. He did get played though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/19 06:52 PM |
| 20 | Half of you don't seem to understand what it means to be a Queen, or, The Qualities of QueendomReality is many women are at different levels of working this out in themselves. Knowing your worth is the groundwork to a good relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/19 10:39 AM |
| 41 | Half of you don't seem to understand what it means to be a Queen, or, The Qualities of QueendomReality is many women are at different levels of working this out in themselves. Knowing your worth is the groundwork to a good relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/19 10:35 AM |
| 12 | Guy didn’t make time for me so I’m seeing someone else this weekendLmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/19 12:24 AM |
| 26 | Guy didn’t make time for me so I’m seeing someone else this weekendJust drop too busy guy. He’s gonna stay the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/19 12:23 AM |
| 6 | Don't internalise the insecurities fuckboys project or see singledom as a personal failureYeah... I think one thing that was different about this one was I saw how much he actually wanted my affirmation but it wasn’t until I started asking for what I needed instead of stroking his ego that it ended. Red bells went off when his family were all like “wow you’re so beautiful” and his response was “if they think you’re so great, what do they think about me?” I thought that was such a weird response and I knew then I was like a prop. Since then I’ve just been loving on myself and doing th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/19 07:20 PM |
| 17 | Don't internalise the insecurities fuckboys project or see singledom as a personal failureYou're really speaking to me today. I have never had a good relationship. I always end them around the two-month mark too. No matter how much I like them because I feel miserable when I am ridden with anxiety because he's treating me subpar. So it feels good to end it but then I was always left feeling like I wasn't enough and maybe he'll treat the next girl better. So true about not having something to compare it to so I was left asking "am I asking too much?" The last guy was always BUSY with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/19 05:53 PM |
| 18 | Don't internalise the insecurities fuckboys project or see singledom as a personal failuremost women will go in cycles of fuckboys until it clicks CLICKKK | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/19 05:19 PM |
| 47 | Don't internalise the insecurities fuckboys project or see singledom as a personal failureThis couldn't be more true. Dating guys like this takes a HUGE hit on your self esteem and I ALWAYS used to internalize. Now, I am building myself back up. I know I am not perfect but I am high-value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/19 04:28 PM |
| 4 | The shit some women allow themselves to put up with. It’s a no from melmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/19 04:22 PM |
| 5 | RED FLAG? His toddler lives with his parents.Also random side bar: a guy contacted me about this and messaged me a good ten times that they should allow men's advice in here. WTF is wrong with people? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/19 04:15 PM |
| 2 | RED FLAG? His toddler lives with his parents.Thanks for this input! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/19 04:08 PM |
| 0 | RED FLAG? His toddler lives with his parents.Again, I am not lowering my standards. I do not see life in black and white terms. Me deciding to go on a date with someone who has a child even though I previously said I did not want that isn't lowering my standards. It's just me deciding I am okay with seeing what that experience would be like. This one just isn't the one to try it with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/19 04:00 PM |
| 1 | RED FLAG? His toddler lives with his parents.Makes sense! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/19 03:34 PM |
| 2 | RED FLAG? His toddler lives with his parents.I don’t see life as black and white as I used to so I just wanted to see what it would be like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/19 03:32 PM |
| 2 | RED FLAG? His toddler lives with his parents.hahha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/19 03:23 PM |
| 0 | RED FLAG? His toddler lives with his parents.Lol why is everyone jumping to me having his child. I was just talking about giving him a chance. But I understand everything you're saying. I agree. I'm going to cancel the date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/19 03:19 PM |
| 10 | RED FLAG? His toddler lives with his parents.Yeah that's why I am like... mhmm.. he also just revealed that he smokes three times a day to maintain an appetite so I am cancelling the date. It's too much already. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/19 03:18 PM |
| 0 | RED FLAG? His toddler lives with his parents.That seems to be jumping to a lot of conclusions but I am super cautious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/19 02:57 PM |
| 7 | Needed to hear this after a breakupExactly!! No longer doing this. I finally saw that I was in my last relationship and have no desire to ever do that again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/19 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Guess I shouldn't get dick pics before coffee. I told him his personality must be trash since all he could send was a d*ck picLoll | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/19 06:45 PM |
| 3 | What are your thoughts on the probationary stage of dating?Oh of course. That’s ridiculous and not respectful. I’d drop him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/19 01:43 PM |
| 6 | Only get turned on by men who are devoted and who never make you doubt their love for you. Kill your attraction for men who don’t make an effort to keep you and make you happy. Go for the guy who’s crazy about you!I hear you girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/19 01:38 PM |
| 7 | Only get turned on by men who are devoted and who never make you doubt their love for you. Kill your attraction for men who don’t make an effort to keep you and make you happy. Go for the guy who’s crazy about you!So true. I am paying for not doing that now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/19 01:37 PM |
| 13 | What are your thoughts on the probationary stage of dating?I think he can do whatever he wants until we’re exclusive. I am dating other people and I assume he is too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/19 08:13 PM |
| 11 | Best way to kill booty calls / drunk textsI don’t respond. Simple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/19 02:14 PM |
| 2 | Encouragement needed after confusing and cold break up <3Yeah... you seem to know. I get wanting to understand too, but whether he is mentally ill or just trash, you can choose to forgive because it’s for you. Be angry though!! It’s part of the process, | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/19 02:41 AM |
| 7 | Encouragement needed after confusing and cold break up <3So, I read your other post. Firstly, I don’t really think It’s productive to label the guy. You don’t really know what his issue is, but you do know that he didn’t treat you like you deserve to be treated so it isn’t much of a loss. You dated him for a month, so you didn’t really know him. Men are always on their “best behavior” in the beginning so if he suddenly became cold and mean, thank The universe or God or life that you didn’t have to wait a long time to find this out!! I know it doesn’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/19 01:47 AM |
| 3 | Mythology Break Down #1: Men Telling You You'll Max Out At Thirty is Their BIGGEST CopeSo true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/19 01:12 PM |
| 23 | Drink Dates: Don’t Do Them if You’re Looking for a RelationshipIf you’re saying it’s easier to weed assholes by not going on drink dates, gotcha. But I don’t care about being seen as less girlfriend material by a man who thinks so because he’s taking me on an easy cheap date. Says a lot more about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/19 09:22 PM |
| 37 | Drink Dates: Don’t Do Them if You’re Looking for a RelationshipIt’s not black and white. I’m glad you found something that works for you but going on drink dates doesn’t make anyone any less girlfriend material. I do think it’s a good idea to keep drinking to a minimum on the first few dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/19 08:45 PM |
| 2 | This happend 1 hour ago and im madWhat I was gonna say. Dick move but be prepared. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/19 08:41 PM |
| 6 | Difference between being needy & expressing your needsYep they absolutely do that! I’ve experienced it with so many men! But I’m def done. Not dating right now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/19 06:13 PM |
| 12 | I just wanted to seriously thank you guys for changing my lifeHappy for you girl!! I just joined this section today! I am at a point of not dating but self-discovery after blaming myself for a dude's bad behavior for so long. Although I'm not into it right now, it's amazing to see women feeling empowered to take control of their dating lives and not accept half-ass effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/19 02:17 PM |
| 1 | It finally came in! Thanks for the recommendation ladies!You can and should want that if that's how you feel. I respect that. I feel like some of the women on this forum come off emotionally bitter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/19 01:42 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend wants bjs every night before bed, how do I say no without hurting his feelings?what... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/19 01:37 PM |
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