This, ladies, is why we need backup boyfriends. This guy is getting hard to read and I’m not liking it. He hadn’t made an effort to see me really but he texts me often. Mixed messages. He had opportunities to take on a basic date this week and he didn’t. Meanwhile I’ve got another guy in the wings who is dying to see me and I’m going to spend time with him this weekend. He isn’t afraid to be vulnerable, to tell me he misses me, to commit a full day to being with me. He’s probably not “the one”’but I would much rather spend my time with this guy than wait around for the other one to chase me properly. Already taking me for granted it seems. Men will do this to you in a heartbeat if you reciprocate affection a little too much.

Too-busy (not) guy just got a text from me that I will not be available this weekend but if he’d like to get together next week that is a possibility. Do not wait around for them! Don’t commit to them if they don’t even try or want to spend as much time with you as they can. I’m not sure what his deal is because he sends me kissy emojis every night and texts me pretty often but the last couple days he’s been distant - and so I responded in kind and made other plans with a guy who knows he’s not the only one but he values my company enough and respects me enough to be cool with that. No commitment, no real attempts to see me = keeping my options wide open.